How can I keep my MIL from asking me about if I'm having more kids without making her feel bad? I know she doesn't mean anything by it but I'm also tired of the fixation on it. Just need a way to nip it in the bud, kindly.

Posting as :
works at
You are currently posting as works at

Just say no. And then if you decide you want more then woohoo what a happy surprise for her lol

like

Yeah I agree with this. I think just coming outright and saying "we're done having kids" would be the best way to get her off your back. Better than saying "none of your business" in terms of keeping the family peace too haha

like

Tell her it’s none of her business. Flat out.

F her feelings. It’s none of her business.

like

The best answer depends on a few status issues: how old are you, how long have you been married, how many kids do you have. Then, of course, there's the relationship issue: are you and your significant other committed for the long haul, or ready to skip out at the first offer of something new, different, and possibly better? Let's assume you have two children, married happily and forever for 10 years, around 30 years old. Answer: "We've discussed going for No. 3, but the time isn't right at this time. Of course, if we do want someone around the house to delay the old empty nest, I guess we'll have to bite the bullet within the next fe years. Another thing is that when you've had the two most perfect children possible, what else do you have to prove? Why push you're luck. The next one could end up on America's Most Wanted -- when he's in kindergarten." In short, recognize and accept your mother-in-law's desire for another grandchild by indicating you also have a desire for another child. Sprinkle some commonsense reasons for delaying that decision and possibly coming to a different conclusion. Humor always take the edge off of unpleasant and unwelcome news.

I would be honest in a soft way. I’d just say you haven’t decided but we will let you know if and when the time is right.

Related Posts

Anyone stuck in an unhappy marriage? How do you deal with loneliness of this profession and complicated family life

My firstborn is due in just over a month! Was wondering if anyone can provide any tips or insight for a first time parent!

like

Tis the season...
Anyone else have a love/hate relationship with NOAA?

Post Photo
like

Advice Needed!

Situation: Current US Citizen with girlfriend (International) who will be graduating in December and start OPT (1-year). Considering the following options for various reasons, any thoughts/oversights appreciated. Will also consult with a lawyer but wanted to get a gauge from those with experience. Cont.

like

Does anyone feel bad seeing friends when you’re job hunting? Just feel like I don’t deserve a dinner out and will feel bad comparing myself since they are all doing fine.

like

I just came home sobbing because I got too drunk at my female best friends house and her husbands male friend tried to take advantage of me when we were left alone in a hot tub. My boyfriend didn’t ask if I was okay but instead screamed at me, threw things and left the house. Dumping him is the only logical answer?? Am I crazy?

like

Hi guys

This question may not be related. However I wanted to know from personal and family point of view how it is like to relocate from India and live abroad .
Let's say Family consists of husband , wife and a kid . I understand we will get good facilities, education, cleanliness , good air etc , however I wanted to check whether people gel up easily in the new environment? Don't they feel loneliness/ difficult to adjust? Do they look for similar asian nationalities to kill boredom?

like

Anybody here a single mother by choice? Would love to chat.

likehelpful

I need friends. Feel lonely when everyone else is partying up.

like

Advice or Book recommendations on how not to get bothered by others/ friends/ peers? What they think or what they do!
Been struggling lately

like

I am wanting to start the adoption process. I reached out to pathways to parenthood for information first from my personal email. I got a response within 30 min asking me to email them back from my work email. I did so and it has now been 3 days with no response. Is there any other way of contacting them?

Parents... please control your children. Screaming kids are awful.

like

What is the appropriate way to sympathize with relatives when their loved ones pass away. I never know what to say on the phone other than ask is everyone ok and I am sorry to hear their loss. Cont...

like

Best divorce lawyer in NYC?

like

I wish I had more friends who were into shooting sports. Tough to find chill people who want to live the pew life 😢

like

When my non advertising friends complain about their 50 hour work weeks

Post Photo
likefunny

I dint feel happy when my bf proposed me for marriage.. i am not able to understand why..he is very nice guy, we have been dating for almost 4 years but honestly, in these 4 years, i never had that butterflies feelings with him never ever. Its just that we are comfortable with each other as a person thats it and we started dating.
Whats wrong with me..i am also not sure if i want marry him..

like

Whoever said bumble bbfs was great couldn’t have been more right. It’s weird I’ve l been confident in how I look in the last few years but my personality and likability was put into question but instantly I seem to be receiving the friendship attention I like, 50+ likes by 4am on the first day, signed up at 2am. It’s kind of nice to make brand new friends without having a connection or a class together. Old friends and friends or friends sometimes benchmark you and don’t view the new you

likeuplifting

The death of my best friend in combat will forever haunt me, no matter how hard I want to accept it and let it go. I've been remembering every day since I came back. It's so hard to deal with this on my own.

like

She fell in love with a consultant and...

Post Photo
funnylike

More Posts

Scheduling added another S3 (my level) to my engagement but acting as a manager, while I’ve been on this engagement for a few years and getting great reviews. My ego is shot and I’m insulted. Advice?

Hey everyone. I am thinking about leaving PwC for a role at small company with about 40 employees where I'll be working directly for the VP of finance. I'll be implementing netsuite, accounting and

like

Does anyone know the salary for Managing Consultant at Capgemini? The consulting practice not Tech

like

Cant get over the new leaves in my Thai Constellation.

Post Photo
likeuplifting

How is job security at S&P Global Market Intelligence Ahmedabad location for financial modeling ?

When does cognizant roll out offer letters after submitting cdf1 form? Is Diwali delaying the roll out of the offer letter? I submitted cdf1 on 21st October.

like

Hello amazing people. I currently work in CA as a HH RN and planning on relocating to MI in couple months.
I’m not sure about the most efficient way to proceed. Is it best to start as a travel HH RN? Do I apply directly with an agency that offers relocation benefits?….I have over 15 YOE, what’s the pay like in MI?
Thank you all for your help!

like

Best campaigns since the pandemic began?

like

SEs, do you have any side hustles for weekends or weeknights?
I'm in a very HCOL area and my 165k TC isn't enough to comfortably buy a million dollar house (which is a 50 y/o SFH that needs TLC on prob a 1200 living sqft).

Wondering if any of you work side gigs during your free time?

like

Not a fan of consulting.. too late to pivot into tech as a SWE (via bootcamp or masters)?

27M 5YOE $175k Base

like

Anyone recently joined Optum in India? Did you receive welcome gift?

How much can we salary can we Optum ask for a Senior data analyst at optum?

like

I joined OPTUM today so how soon we can expect laptop and goodies.

like

what tech companies are still hiring?

KTOS - seems like a good play if things escalate in the Middle East

like

California peeps. I have a feeling I failed FAR, which is my last exam, but my score isn’t released until May 11. Can I submit the reapplication with the CA Board of Accountancy to speed up the retake and NTS process in case I failed? Or do I need to get my exam score first? I need to pass by mid June, else my REG score expires, hence the rush to resubmit the re-application.

like

If I am reading this correctly, this is the perfect time to be taking the CPA exam. You basically have 2-3 years to get through all the exams. Am I reading that right?

Post Photo
likehelpful

In hand plz
Urgent

Post Photo
like

My company, Pegasystems, is agressively hiring for Senior Solutions Consultant (presales) positions nationwide. If you are interested in working for an amazing company with market leading products and a great culture, please message me. Happy to discuss further. Assuming you are reasonably qualified, I can provide a referral as well.

like

New to Fishbowl?

Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
That was just a preview…
Sign Up to see all discussions
  • Discover what it’s like to work at companies from real professionals
  • Get candid advice from people in your field in a safe space
  • Chat and network with other professionals in your field
Sign up in seconds to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.

Already a user?
Login here

Share

Embed this post

Copy and paste embed code on your site

Preview

Download the
Fishbowl app

See what’s happening in your industry
from the palm of your hand.

A phone with Fishbowl app

Scan your QR code to download
Fishbowl app on your mobile

Download app

Sign up for free to view this conversation on Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy

Already have an account? Log in

Sign up for free to continue using Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use(New) and Privacy Policy(New)
Messaging rates may apply

Already have an account? Log in

For account settings, visit Fishbowl on Desktop Browser or

General

Legal