How can you deal with your desi parents, trying to interfere in your life sitting in India. They call my friends on Whattsapp and discuss things with them and decide what I should do. They try to deliver the messages indirectly rather than talking straight to me.

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May be both of you need to tone down your voice when you interact with each other? Sounds like when you talk about sensitive issues it turns into an argument and it appears your parents feel unheard and you feel betrayed while they communicate with your friend..

May be I’m judging the situation due to the lack of background information.. but my feedback is based on general human behavior…. we tend to get aggressive while speaking or discussing sensitive topics with close ones out of fear of being judged

Agree with your assessment of being judged, like a good desi kid always revered them whether they are right or wrong. Have thought of confronting them on why they are trying to interfere in my life sitting in India but always stopped short as to how they might get offended and hurt their feelings

Wow. Why are your friends talking to your parents? I would ask your friends to not encourage this.

My friends are being polite and apparently my friends are the ideal kids that my parents always wanted, always comparing and judging me with others

I assume you are in your 20s. When you reach 30s you will realize it's always fam > friends.

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