How did you move on after breakup and having kid(s)? Did you move away? Stick around? Did you forgo any opportunities in doing so? Keen to hear stories. I’ve had opportunities take me further and further away… it’s costly but I come back intermittently. Finding it hard to move on.

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OP. I am divorced with 2 kids. At the time we separated they were 4 and 7 yo. There was a little temptation to move to a cheaper city while I paid alimony and child support. However, those kids are my number one priority. I decided I need to deal with my ex and spend as mush time with them as possible. Financially it is not ideal but there is always time to work and save money. Time with my kids during these years is limited.

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Thanks for sharing EY1. There is always time to work and save money … this is one to ponder over.

Establish your priorities. Mine is my kid. I wouldn’t consider moving. After that, I would consider my personal goals (work, etc)

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Thanks for sharing - this is thought provoking.

I could never leave my kids. Even though I don’t have them full time, I want to be a strong presence in their lives. Could I succeed in my career faster if I moved? Maybe. Would moving away and fading out of my kids’ lives be harmful to them? 100%.

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You looking to move on from kids as well?

Yes may but is that a risk you really want to take?

Less about career more about social - our careers are demanding enough. My child is in a remote location which makes it harder. I’ve got nothing to my name - planning to do a short stint very far away to get a leg up and then return and be more involved.

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