How do you find a good babysitter for your kids that doesn't cost a fortune? I've been paying babysitters more per hour than I even make! Last time my spouse and I went out to dinner, we were gone about 3 hours and I spent $200 on the sitter PLUS bought her dinner (I ordered Uber Eats for my kid so I got her something too to be nice.) I mean- that's insanity!! I should be a babysitter at this rate... where are all the high schoolers looking for pocket money?!

Any suggestions on how to save a alcoholic spouse?

Hi everyone I am relocating to Hyderabad next month. Even though I look forward to meeting new people I can’t seem to ignore the fact that I will move away from family. My family situation is already complicated, my mom and dad are not on good terms so we don’t live together and when I move it’ll get worse. I am financially independent but I feel guilty for not being there for them. Is there any possibility of getting transferred to Gurgaon office(a lot closer to my home)if I talk to my manager?

Been having trouble moving on since girlfriend ended relationship 3 weeks ago after 2+ years of dating. Before ending it she came over 3 weeks prior to basically give me a chance to work things out and we had a good discussion but then I went back into our routine and didn’t really fight for it or have serious follow up convos that we needed. Now I just have so many regrets that I let her go. I know we still love each other and left on “good” terms but can’t forgive myself for my lack of action.

How did you tell your manager you’re pregnant? Did it affect pay/promos? And then, subsequently, how did you start letting colleagues know you’re pregnant? Feels awkward to just randomly drop the news in a meeting! I work remotely so it’s hard to tell by video :) I’m 21 weeks and feel like I’ve waited as long as I can to at least notify my manager. I was waiting to negotiate my salary for next year but per company trend that doesn’t get set until January (manager reviews are written in Dec).

My fiance is working on Axis bank in west bengal. I live in Bangalore. Our marriage is on December end. she will be shifting to Bangalore on January and has sent am email for transfer to Bangalore few times back. BUT not getting any positive response and even no one is replying to her emai.
Looking for suggestions here....

WFH parents - what’s your routine and how old are your kids? Struggling to find one for me.

6 months pregnant and just laid off. And 40% of my severance was just taken in taxes .. I just spoke with paid family leave and I no longer qualify even though I had been paying into the program (thanks NY).. I already applied for unemployment but doctors are telling me I’ve got 10-14 weeks left in this pregnancy.. so stressed having twins and being unemployed, no maternity leave, no paychecks coming in, and I’ve been applying but not a single interview.. just ugh. 😭

Partners with kids and a working spouse, how do you manage? Is it realistic for both people in the relationship to work full time long term? How do you keep marriage going and career progressing?

Confused if parents want schools to reopen or not? I read so many posts here about how difficult it is to work full time and manage kids’ at-home schooling (I can’t even imagine!) so would assume that means parents want to reopen, but at the same time keep seeing a ton of backlash from parents in states who are pushing to reopen due to safety reasons. What’s the general consensus?

Have you been able to spend more time with your kids during the pandemic? How?

When, or if you set time aside to take care of yourself or do something for yourself, what do you do? I'm realizing I don't really have any "healthy" ways of relaxing outside of work, so drop whatever you got. It's starting to affect my personal life and I'm worried I won't be able to have healthy relationships unless I can take care of myself first.

Baby lawyer here. What is the difference between a full time staff attorney and an associate attorney? Does one get paid less?

Is it a wise decision to move to Amsterdam from Bangalore? I am a 34 years old Devops Engineer staying with my wife and a baby. We both are working here while in Amsterdam once I move, my wife will be eligible to apply for jobs(She is into Software testing)
CCTC : 37Lpa , Offered CTC - 72K Euro with 11 years of exp in DevOps. Please suggest.

Only divorce services for uncontested and amicable divorces

Does anyone else struggle with their significant other not understanding the nature and demand of our work? We constantly fight about me staying late and blames it on poor time management.

I test drove a 2017 330 gt, got an offer for around 28K. I need to fit 2 child seats and don’t want to get an SUV. It’s surprisingly roomy inside. Asking for the pros here for any insights or things to be aware of before I pull the trigger. My first german car upgrading from an accord.

Going through some relationship issues and having a hard time focusing at work the past couple of days. Not sure how to prevent my personal life from affecting my work.

What are your best tips when letting an expecting parent know we will not be revising the parental leave policy for them (but we understand they think it’s not good enough)

For the foodies out there, post pics of your creations during quarantine! :)

Does anyone deal with (suspected or diagnosed) comorbid anxiety and/or depression? How did you broach the conversation with your psych?

Looking for job change ,having 5+ years of experience in Internal audit and risk, base location is gurgaon, willing to join immediately. Any recommendations??

The feeling of avoiding mines buried on the gorund is one I carry at all times, and I remember the fear and the anxiety at every step. I still feel like this today, like every decision I make will lead to disaster.

New to the area, anyone in this group into hunting?

I have a looming sense of self hatred. I take medication I workout and do all the things to feel good, but it’s just stuck there. Constantly thinking I’m trash, in a bad person, etc. Feeling guilty for things idek if I should feel guilty about. This is a privileged problem and I know it’s minuscule to compared to the actual struggles of so many people in the US and abroad. Just wondering if anyone has felt this as well and if so, how do you get rid of that self hatred?

Any guys out there shave or trim their leg hair? Ladies - thoughts?

Hi all, I am an Aws data engineer with 4 years of experience, Aws developer certified. I have only 20 days of notice period left.

Can anyone please refer me to a data engineer role at amazon

I’m new here. Can I please get some likes 😩

Anyone heard back from Capital One for the MBA product management position? My application has been in progress for over a month and no news from the company. @CapitalOne

IFV recommendations in Boston anyone? A Reproductive Endocrinologist the most - but reccs on any and all members of a health team/other tips welcome. Wide and I are about to begin this journey =/

Hi fishes,
I'm looking for a software Engineer internship please help me if your companies are hiring.

I have joined TCS as graduate trainee. I have been trained with Automation anywhere tool.i. am on bench.
I have knowledge of Html ,css, little bit of javascript and Java. What should I do or learn to grow in my tech career.

I have a offer 18lpa and my company infosys is giving me onsite in a period of next 6 months and it is in written mail with program manager should i consider it?

Hello, I am looking for job. I have more than 9 yrs of experience in application support role. I can join immediately. I will much appreciate if any lead/referral.

Hello! My partner doesn’t have fishbowl but we are moving from WI to NYC in a few months. My partner is Director of Brand Strategy for a local studio and is looking for a comparable job in NYC. Anyone here have any leads on marketing positions in NYC?

Is Deloitte USI specifically in Oracle Cloud Technology, Is it doing layoffs? Level Senior Consultant

Hi guys I am posting this again I have offer of almost same package from Accenture and IBM . Accenture offering is very slight more but that's not my key consideration. Which company is better in terms of job security, work life balance. That's the top most factor I am considering. Learning and project and latest niche technology is the other important factor after first 2 factors .

Welcome! Wanted to create a place for triangle-specific whining/musing/connections.

What do people do in Raleigh area for fun? I moved from NYC and I'll be the first to admit I find it a little slow here.

Hi is anyone free for a weekly remote 3 hours daily job as a listing agent for rental property? Experienced or not we have salary based for both experienced and none experienced persons . From 550 weekly. Send a DM if interested for more details.

Are there any Graphic Designers here? Looking to make some designer friends/network/chat? Moved from NYC last year. My last role ended in September so i'm currently unemployed, applying to jobs. Hoping to get something before the little unemployment I receive runs out. :/

Anyone going out tonight?

Anyone new to this area and interested to meet up over the next few weeks? I moved here from Boston in March and would like to make some friends

Would love ideas for meeting people outdoors. Looking to connect with locals, as long as it does not involve eating indoors. 😂 This area was so good for connecting a variety of backgrounds coming together from all over. Ideas?

What are your favorite coffee shops to work remotely from? Open to any neighborhood—I like trying new places.

What is the average salary of a finance manager in the Raleigh Durham area

Best & worst company you’ve worked for in the area? I’ll go first

Best - NCSECU; pay was mediocre but stress free. Highly dependent on your branch if you have a good team

Worst - REVGEN; These people and their business model are despicable

If anyone needs the triangle area needs their gifts wrapped Im happy to wrap them for you. I’ve had success using libraries as a neutral spot if that’s easier. Regarding price, I’m flexible feel free to message me.

Best breakfast spots in Raleigh?

What sites do you use to find tech companies hiring or based around here (besides LinkedIn, I deed, and the RTP site)?

Are there any restaurants offering a take-home Christmas dinner? Like they make the food and you just heat it up when you bring it home?

Moved to Raleigh during COVID and have been working remotely since. Looking for local Audit manager/internal audit manager/risk management type of roles, anyone knows any companies are hiring?

I see there’s been lots of activity here. :)
Anyone up for getting this group off the ground?