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Go to therapy. Find the right therapist. It might take a few duds.
Yes, you’re not alone. Stems from low self esteem. Even if you think these things, force yourself to contribute time to worthy causes - volunteering and helping others
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The last two years have taken a toll. I've suffered with depression my whole life to some degree. You're not alone and I had no idea that suicidal ideation wasn't the norm.
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A therapist might help get to the root of where it’s coming from. The past two years haven’t helped. Keep in mind, most people want to be different than they are and think others are so ahead or better. Doesn’t make it so. It’s all in your head, friend. Definitely talk to someone. It helps!
First step. Don't minimize or compare your issue to others. Whether it's privileged problem or seem not as bad, it's still a problem that is hurting your day to day life.
Second step. Therapy to understand where this perpetuating thoughts stem from. ✨️
Third step. Use therapy and apply rationalizing techniques find evidence to why you think that. Usually it is you being your own worst critic without any evidence to justify the hate you give yourself.
Optional. Volunteer and feed your mind with positivity with small behaviors of what you consider as good. Give yourself more reason to think of yourself as good.
Optional. Add journaling for cognitive behavioral therapy format.
Events/situation. Thoughts going through your mind. What are you feeling due to the situation and thoughts. And how did you react? Therapy is needed to know how to use it to change behavoir/habit of negative thoughts.
Yes on therapy, but I’d also look into a coaching. Coaching picks up on where therapy leaves off. An actionable plan on how to get you where you want to be. I spent years in therapy and it was helpful. But until I enlisted the help of a coach did I start to make tangible improvements in my life.
Absolutely, and don’t hesitate to reach out about coaching. Taking your life back needs to be a top priority!
There’s a three step process you can use called letting go that I learned from the book Letting Go by David Hawkins. I practice quite often and it’s very effective.
1. Acknowledge you are feeling (name the emotion)
2. Close your eyes, relax, & breathe through your nose
3. Allow yourself to really feel the emotion. Try to visualize it. You can also place your hands where you feel it, like on your chest for example. No judgment, just observe it until it fades away
I hope this helps
You are definitely not alone!!! I went to a counsellor for a little while and it did help, I think I need to get myself back there. I find exercise with a positive group helps or finding a new hobby to keep my mind busy and engaged helps too. Then some days nothing helps and I just try to ride out the feelings. I feel for you and understand!
Therapy def helped me. It’s provided me with tools to negate these feelings when they come up, but it’s not an instant fix, and I still get them weekly, if not daily. Are there negative things in your life that you’re unhappy about? Usually for me, my negative thoughts spiral. You are not alone and I hope you’re able to get the help you need.
(1) Spend time outside and (2) help others. More time on (2) than (1).
You’re allowed to feel for it. Don’t dismiss your feelings because others are also struggling. You’re feeling guilty for feeling bad about yourself. It’s a cycle you can learn to break. Practice telling yourself it’s okay to feel bad. Time will pass and the chemicals that make up emotions will fade. Your anxiety is coming from your mind telling yourself you have to do something to stop feeling bad. We have archaic brains living in this modern society. Sometimes the best thing to do is accept how you feel momentarily, let it spiral, don’t fight it, be an observer of your thoughts without action, and just wait it out. Like a bad acid trip. Talk to someone, and ask them to just listen if you can.
(When feeling fine) Next step is accepting the things you feel bad about that is too much effort or impossible to change. In my experience, the best way to do this is to vocalize those things aloud and make fun of yourself. It takes practice and can be awkward and uncomfortable, but learning to laugh at it releases its power over you. With continued practice you may even become proud of the things you once disliked.
Agree therapy might help....
Not sure how old you are, but I would add I know a LOT of people who go through a depression during their late 20’s. Not to minimize it, but it’s common and most people do come out the other side with time. And therapy
I can relate because I suffered from self hatred for majority of my life. Like others mentioned, therapy changed my life. For me personally, I realized through therapy I had never learned to listen to or process my feelings. By learning to truly feel my feelings, a weight was lifted off of me and I feel the best I have in my entire life. I have been there with you in those low moments, but there is an infinite possibility of happiness and joy out there for you in this world! ❤️