Going through some relationship issues and having a hard time focusing at work the past couple of days. Not sure how to prevent my personal life from affecting my work.

Curious what % of partners/MDs have spouses who also work. And regardless of non/working spouse, what do you do to feel a work/family balance?

Anyone here 40s never married, no kids?

I made a mistake. I talked with the ex this morning. He said he misses me. And that while he walk talking to the other woman, he wished he was talking to me instead. And when he saw that I didn’t respond to his texts, he drank a shit ton. And then called this morning.

He’s not willing to commit to the other women because he’s not over me.

I need to block him.

Your child asks you if they should become a nurse. What do you say?

Well, I was the one who broke it off. I couldn’t get him to love me the way I needed or even respect me enough. It’s been 6 weeks of not seeing each other. We messaged this week. He doesn’t get it…. His messages show he still doesn’t know what he wants. Yet, if I am totally honest, I hate how part of me wishes he would do a grand gesture/finally decide to be a better man. It’s delusional. It’s crazy how love can be so rosy, sweet & blinding that the red flags seem surmountable.

Many of the teachers I work with have great relationships with their co-teacher, but one team is really struggling. What can I do to help them get along?

Yet another friend/colleague got engaged this weekend. It’s become impossible to celebrate people’s relationships. I’m a POC woman and I’ve been single since coming to the US 10 yrs ago. A handful of men have been interested but they were not Christian or back in my country. So many childless, single women in my church and I’m terrified I’ll be them soon. My non-Christian family doesn’t understand why I’ll only date Christians, or the dating scene in big cities, so they put pressure on me

Seriously don't know how to get a boyfriend as an IB analyst, most people who are in a relationship started dating since college. Really don't want to be single when I'm 30•••

What are you all reading other than maternity help books? Any book recommendations for after baby is born? Mainly around how to keep the baby safe from injuries and incidents.

I need friends 🥺

Looking for recommendations for an agency to find a live out nanny on Long Island (Nassau County).

I had a crush on a girl. It's been almost 2 years since I confessed my feelings to her and today she told me that she likes me too.
The only issue is she's a Muslim and I'm a Hindu. She believes we don't have a future and that's why she took a long time to confess. She is confused on what to do and even I am confused because things will actually be difficult for obvious reasons.
Please advice on what we should do now.
Should we part ways or should we fight for it?

SIL and BIL told us excitedly last weekend that she was pregnant (had literally just found out, so barely four weeks). This week she tells us she’s not pregnant anymore :(. They did not seem super torn up about it and were very practical about it. We said how sorry we were, etc etc. should I do anything else? Should I not mention it again unless they do?

A long post: seeking some perspective. My husband of 2 years that I’ve been in a relationship with for more than 8 years just woke up one day and told me that he’s unhappy in our relationship. I’m devastated because he’s never expressed anything like this in the 8 years. He’s been super supportive and loving, even when we were in a long distance relationship. He supported my career and dreams and this just doesn’t make sense. We have gotten a counselor but things aren’t getting better. Comment>

Advice or Book recommendations on how not to get bothered by others/ friends/ peers? What they think or what they do!
Been struggling lately

I am overly stressed that my parents are visiting and staying with me for 5 weeks. Paid them for a cruise but still have 4 weeks. I am dreaded to live with them 4 weeks without social engagement cont'

People who live with housemates / have a garden. Does it get noisy / do you find people in the garden earlier than (we) finish, that distract you from your work?

Also, living how is living next to a secondary school? Noise / traffic etc?

Thanks

Dear crypto and other investments,

I have come to the realization that I absolutely do not want to work for the rest of my life. I would much rather spend my time living it up with my gf and the boys, traveling the world and living my life. Therefore, I am counting on you to not be an endless disappointment and come through clutch.

Love, someone who will go full office space if you fail me.

My SO adds very little to our relationship. She has a dead end job. I cook. I work. I oversee finances. I plan trips. She doesn’t have a voice in the relationship. I’ve asked her to give her perspective but she always defaults to mine bc she thinks I’m smarter/worldly. She feels intimated by me and my social circle. Lately, I’ve found myself thinking for her. Anticipating her wants and needs and then adjusting my behavior to meet them. Which she appreciates but it’s frustrating 29M 27F

I'm trying to build a website for my real estate company but I've never done this before! Can anyone share some resources that will help out with the design and all?

Are we getting diwali gifts?

Anyone moved from NYC to Miami recently? I have moved over 2 months ago, still trying to adjust 🤔

I had quite the day the other day. Coustmer comes in and then ends up leaving with a grossed out look on his face just for him to put in a complaint about my appearance...he down right called me some nasty things for no reason. Still feeling gross about it. He was upset for no reason as far as I'm concerned.

Any NJ/PA Labor and Employment attorneys looking to lateral? Working on multiple AmLaw opportunities.

Hi fishes

I am looking for someone who can get a refferal for a friend willing to get into IT industry as a fresher currently working at Tata technologies and is 2021 passout Knows Java and python
If anyone can help please DM

I'm getting a MAcc to career change to forensic accounting. What opportunities are available to me with a data analytics heavy MAcc? I'm also tacking on 2 graduate certificates in Applied Statistics and International Economic Policy? For those in the field, would that be useful or not useful (i.e. waste of time)? I'm interested in investigations but also analytics, financial modeling, and expert witness services. Throw in salary potential for bonus points. I'll be getting my CPA, CFE, and CAMS.

How much does an associate scientist make at Pfizer-Groton? (I have 1 year experience out of college but have published 2 papers first author, ample experience during university, internships and have an bachelors in biochemistry with honors).

Did I leave for the wrong industry job? It’s definitely not 9-5 more like 9-8/9..how do I find out what the hours are truly like when interviewing for an industry position?

Can anyone working for DT’s ARA or PwC’s CMAAS tell me what does their job specifically include, hours and exit opportunities?

Hello Jio folks,

I have an offer from Jio. Just wanted to know the work culture, learning opportunities and future in Jio.

Hi there, can any provide the pay ranges for say L9, L10 etc at TD? Thanks!

Hi folks,
Joining EY GDS in a weeks time. Do we require any account in a specific bank for salary payments

Can we apply to open positions of other EY entities like EY UK, EY Australia etc.. if we are still working with EY GDS? Will it be entertained?

If i am a fresher in cognizant and worked for 2 months and have got better opportunity can I abscond from same as the other company is asking to join immediately

Looking for Python Developer / Machine Learning Engineer in Product based companies.
I have 4.6 Yrs of Experience

Please suggest some companies which are hiring and good place to work

I have a career question. Is it possible to switch careers from copywriting to sales?

Pro tip I wish I received: when lateraling back up your phone before leaving so you don’t lose it’s contents when your previous firm remote-factory resets the device.

Are there “prestigious” plaintiff-side firms? Ones with mostly or all T-14 grads?

Any tips for a public defender who wants to transition into big law?

BILLABLE v. SALARY BASED.... pros and cons? I’ve never worked at a firm that has billing requirements, I’ve always been salary based, but I’m interested to know what your experiences have been!

I am first year and I got my written reviews today. A partner wrote that I need to be more detail oriented and cited a time I screwed something up for a production. I did screw something up but I owned up to it right away and did everything to fix the issue. It was also in my first few months of practice and I had never made a production before and I was the only associate on the case. How should I handle this during my annual review?

Ever have those days where you just can’t seem to focus? I have days where I get some things done, but despite being able to bill some hours, I don’t feel like I got enough accomplished and then feel guilty. Sometimes I string a few of these days together and feel worse. Can anyone relate? Am I just lazy?

How do you manage the stress and anxiety around billables? I feel like there’s no happy medium. You’re either smashing your targets but stressed and overwhelmed with the workload or you’re anxious that you’re not hitting targets. The job would be so much more enjoyable without them!

What’s the most unethical thing you’ve seen OC get away with?

How do people feel about Gordon Rees? Anyone currently working there? I’d be doing commercial litigation/employment as a 2nd - 3rd year.

Please tell us, since COVID started:

-weirdest thing you've eaten
-weirdest thing you've watched
-weidest thought you've had.

Okay...here goes: I’m not sure if I just want to leave my firm or private practice altogether? For those of you who have contemplated leaving private practice, how did you finally come to realize that that was really what made sense for you, as opposed to just switching firms?

Absolutely love my direct supervising partner, hate the firm management, pay is mediocre and I could get a 5 digit bump elsewhere, what do I do? (Mid-size insurance defense firm in southeast region)

What types of lit mid law or boutiques are better WLB than big law? Is this even a thing or just a myth?

I have a promising interview at a relatively large law firm in my area (+100 attorneys) next week. The position is for a transactional role in their real estate practice group, and they are seeking someone with at least 2 YOE. I have a bit over 7 YOE with a strong real estate/commercial lit. background. Over the past two years in my current position, I've been doing a lot more transactional work. The split is around 50% transactional and 50% lit.

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How do I train my critical thinking skills? Any book recommendations?

They should really poll the associates to seed ideas for holiday party locations...

I'm a long time prosecutor getting into the ID game and billable hours. Are there any resources out there that can help me get more effective/efficient without spending months/years learning the hard way? Some days I'm at the office 10 hours, took virtually no breaks and yet only bill 7. 🤬

I’m not a biglaw attorney but have been working on a few matters with Wilson Sonsoni for some time. We have a good working relationship. Didn’t go to a T14, had middle of the pack grades. What’re the odds they’d consider me as a lateral in the Washington DC office? Is it even worth applying? Is a STEM background absolutely mandatory? Any other insights on culture and expectations at WS’s DC office would be appreciated. Thank you 🙏

What makes a good lawyer? Go

Anyone have recommendations for comfortable office chair for home office? Our firm is back in the office, but still use my home office chair most evenings so I’m looking for something comfortable