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Completely normal! Do it once for a sports game or something you want to watch and you’ll be able to do it again without anxiety. No one cares or will notice :)
At a bar alone rn. Do it every now and then (not every day by any means), pick a bar that has a more comfortable vibe (no "club" clubs), put yourself out there, and (most importantly) GET OUT when it's time to go home.
Depends on the bar in my opinion. For your small, local bar no it’s not weird. There’s usually a lot of people just there alone- talking to one another or the bar tender, they seem to be regulars. For a bar that has more of a young/ club vibe, I do think it’s a little weird.
As a female in Chicago, and in a long-term relationship, I go to bars alone to get out of my comfort zone and to meet new people a couple times a month.
When I go to bars I choose them specifically for safety and convenience. I typically choose semi-popular restaurants I want to try and just sit at the bar, order food, and then make conversation with either those sitting around me or the bartender.
Personally, I think choosing a restaurant bar makes it less weird. One, you’re not drinking alone. Two, it gives you a purpose for being there and an activity (the food). Three, you’re more approachable if you don’t look like you’re just there for a hookup (from your post it seems like you’re mostly looking to make a friend or at the least a friendly connection).
If you choose a restaurant bar with tvs you can make conversation about whatever game is playing too.
Honestly, it’s going to be uncomfortable at first. But the more you practice getting out of your comfort zone, the less weird it will be.
D4, also a US expat who moved to the UK. If you’re in London I would recommend the Ivy or Tottenham Court Road food plaza for a good bar + restaurant vibe
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If you’re in Boston, put on a sox cap, walk into a pub, have a seat, order a pint. Step 5: profit.
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Do you let your significant other know about these hang outs every time?
Yes he knows, and he often picks me up from them since it only takes about 3 drinks for me to be tipsy. He’s very supportive of me doing things for myself, as I really don’t have many friends in the city to do things with.
Never forget his support :) This extra mingling in the presence of alcohol can cause mischief
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I used to travel a lot for work, frequently I found myself staying overnight in a city where I really didn’t knew anyone. I got hungry I headed to the restaurant without thinking much about it. After a few times you realize it is just normal.
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Clubs with touring djs are usually easier to meet people in but def not weird to do bars, just make random convos lol
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Also one of the benefits of moving to a new city alone is you gain the skill to socialize in any situation. This is something I didn’t have before but since I moved away from my main friend group it forced me to relearn how to make friends
What city did you move to?
Five horses is great - also happy to provide recs if you have a neighborhood you want to go out in
As a shy person, just do it. It’s very nerve wrenching but it’s an exhilarating experience, and I’m typically way more social than with a group
If you could go to a place where you could dance it makes it soooo easy for people to come up and talk to you when they see you have a good time just vibing to music. Also a plus if you wear something very unique that makes you look apart. Also usually wearing sunglasses helps me not give a fuck if other people are looking at me or not. 10/10 recommend
Sport or music are good places to start. Go to a bar to watch the game or a club to see music you like and you’ll find it easy to make friends and you’ll be doing something you like anyway. It’s also not weird to sit in a bar with a book / laptop / headphones on if you just want to get out and have a drink. Finding a favourite spot helps too. I watch football in the same pub near me and have started to recognise some familiar faces.
I was in a similar position. It’s hard when you’re young because most people go to the club bars with groups of friends. I’d recommend trying to bartend/work at one of the bars where people your age tend to go, you can still enjoy the bar scene without feeling out of place. You can also meet a ton of people/friends and get paid!
Nah it’s not weird! I go to bars alone all the time. My golden rule is that I don’t drink heavily alone. I find it relaxing to have a beer or two at a nice patio bar while reading a good book for example. However, it’s also fun to meet new people at bars! I’ll always just grab a stool close to a group of people that seem interesting, and mind my own business until something they say catches my ear. Some people will actually want to chat and incorporate you into the conversation, while others will not. Just put yourself out there and have fun!
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When you talk to the group that doesn’t want to talk to you and you get the stare 💀