How do you guys deal with mean individuals, where there is a few of them who group up acting like some high-school bullies?


I don’t really want to report to the managers, one of “bullies” is of higher position than I am. They sometimes make snide remarks, ostracise me or others to some extent. Not to the extent of something severe, but it has been adding more stress to the work for me.

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I would definitely report that

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Don't let them get to you, there is something special about you that they hate, maybe its your confidence in yourself!

Don't take it personally. They were like this before you got there, and will continue like this long after you are gone. Try to ignore them, but also stand up for yourself. One thing bullies rely on is people either backing down, or being quiet, and so they get away with it. They react differently to the one who doesn't. Either they back off, or they escalate. Depends if they feel emboldened by getting away with if forever, or if they are a higher ups favourite. It does sound like a toxic environment there, which is not good. The other thing you need to do is document things that are happening or being said, particularly to you, but in general even. Not the day, time, what and by who/to who. While you do this, look for another job. When you find another job, then resign. Until then, document what's going on so you have something to back it up. Keep copies of messages or emails that are inappropriate too. Don't let anyone know you are documenting what is going on. Do it quietly on the side and keep away from them all. Keep to yourself, show up, do the job, go home, repeat. Look for something else.

Try calmly saying “I don’t like how you’re talking to me right now” when it happens, sometimes that’s enough for the person to take a step back and think about how they’re behaving. Usually they don’t want to get in trouble themselves, however if after that they continue I’d mention it to a manager and explain you’ve expressed to the team members you‘re not comfortable with how you’re being addressed. In the bigger picture, you do have to learn to work in that environment without it causing a detriment to your wellbeing unless you’re fairly confident a more senior member would have your back and mediate the conflict in a way that doesn’t cause more issues.

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