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The most natural way is asking what they did last weekend, plans for this weekend, etc. Usually you can pull something from there to relate to or chat about. Ask what kind of music they are listening to, what good movies or shows they recently watched. Sports is pretty common among the men. I will also “eavesdrop” on other conversations to see if there’s a topic I can speak on and join in. I’m very socially awkward, so it takes time, but I’ve built good relationships with my coworkers.
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Wendy Williams once said, “people at work aren’t your friends, you are all competing for the same thing, thus you inherently can’t be friends”
I have colleagues that I’ll converse with, but no one I am forced to be around in a work environment I will call my friend.
I’m still friends with some people from my first few years of work when most people are more genuine/honest. It’s hard not to feel the need to protect oneself…
I don’t have friends at work. I have family.
Do you work for CLA 😉 IYKYK “family”
If you have friends outside of work, then you don't need to have friends at work.
By having hobbies outside of the hamster wheel. Putting down the phone, touching grass, and making connections in real life. Sign up for a meetup around your area on a topic you enjoy and/or become a member of an activity that you enjoy; I.e, Running club . Just do things. Simple
I was told by someone really wise before I started working: coworkers are not your friends. Over the years I see people will always choose their own benefits over yours, which is human nature. What I'm trying to say is be friendly but don't see making friends at work is something crucial. After all coworkers are just people waiting at a traffic light with you.
Incessantly talk about how you’re excited for all the great Week 1 match-ups.
I think you naturally build relationships with the people you work with. It's all about trust and rapport.
I’m in a super outdoorsy city so that’s one thing we bond over, but also we just like talking aspirations, life issues, goals, and etc.
I’d want to have a people that I share these issue with at work lol
I started becoming friendly with my previous manager by bonding over client incompetency
I would find someone who shares similar hobbies or interests, so starting off a conversation to get to know someone is a great place to start. It is always fantastic to have a person to share wins, vent (with guardrails), and speak the same “work language.” While I have a few friends within the workplace, I do try to keep very personal friendships outside of work. While it can be great to feel close with people, you’ll want to maintain some boundaries and try to be as objective as possible, especially if you (or start) manage people. Also, try keep it to peers within the same level, as having friends too senior or junior can create challenges.
Thank you for your advice! I appreciate it. Im looking for someone that I can share and grow together in the firm.
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Out of all the jobs I have had and all the fiends I made at work not one contacts me to this day. Advice: be friendly but do not share information that can come back to bite you because if advancement is offered to you and your "work friend" then you will see what a true friend they are.
Hi Robert,
Thank you for your advice! I’ll keep that in mind. Yes, Im friendly, and I also want to build good relationship too.
I have a peer in the pass through group.
No such thing as Friendship. Only Conditional Relationships and Circumstances.
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Joining groups within the firm is what helped me make friends outside of my immediate coworkers. There was an interfaith group as well as a rock climbing group that helped me with the preemptive anxiety i felt and were still all very close as some left but we still stay in contact
Two types of ways I made friends at work:
1) we bonded over our mutual frustration for the project, the nitpicky client, the scatterbrained manager, our lazy peers. Trauma bonding!
2) we had mutual interests outside of work and just kind of clicked
Me too it’s rly just the vibes and always be cautious of your coworkers
Hell nah. I act like a good friend, but not to be friends with them outside of work.
It takes time. Be open for genuine connections and play the numbers game by going to a lot of office social events. It starts with what appears to be superficial friendships and takes time to become real friendships. I’ve been here 16 years and made several lifelong friends.
Even besides my friends, a few partners know deep dark painful parts of my personal life. They supported me through the dark season instead of firing me. But it all took time to get there. Large firm, definitely assholes around too, and I’ll never share anything personal with them.