How friendly is too friendly with coworkers and managers? We have a pretty chill environment at my company but sometimes I feel we gotta draw the line somewhere between work and personal life

like
Posting as :
works at
You are currently posting as works at

Friendly is good! Too friendly would be developing an intimate relationship with a colleague.
I’ve met some of my best friends at work, and we don’t joke around too much at work to the point where management thinks we’re distracted.

Definitely protect your personal information / anything they could hold against you until you build a trusting relationship with them.

I make it a point to ask/talk about personal lives outside of work all the time; I want to get to know my colleagues and I want them to trust me as well.
When going out for lunch or dinner amongst colleagues, I make sure not to badmouth anyone or the company. You’ll also see more of their true colors outside of work too, it’s worth noting what type of people you work with. Keep it light but real!
Having genuine friendships with colleagues makes going to work a lot more enjoyable. Be yourself! As long as everyone is getting work done and respecting each other, it’ll be fine.

like

That's awesome to hear! I worry too though about things turning sour and then ruining work because you're right, people don't show their true colors at work

like

I see it as, I share my weekend plans (going to dinner!) but not the details (took 14 sake bombs!)

funny

A good distinction 😂😂

Yes, I never develop deep relationships with coworkers. It's too risky.

smart

It's easier in certain companies, I guess. I used to be at a company run by a bunch of old white men and it was pretty easy not to get overly friendly. But now I actually work with some cool people

like

I always end up best friends with someone I work with so I probably don't have good boundaries with coworkers haha. But I would say anything that makes you uncomfortable is crossing the line of too friendly.

like

The friendliest I'd get with a manager would be going for dinner and a few drinks after work as a team (not one-on-one). Co-workers is a different story. Some of my closest friends I've made over the years I've met at work.

like

Ugh, just had to have a meeting with my manager about one of my coworkers that was just doing the absolute most.

........???

Boss tried to hit on me once. After that, I set hard boundaries.

*shouldn't say tried, he did.

Related Posts

Are you responsible for giving performance feedback? Avoid giving personality based feedback. Examples include telling an Asian person they are too quiet/shy or telling a Black person they are agressive/abrasive. DO NOT DO THIS. It clearly represents bias in Performance Management. Performance feedback should be tied to business outcomes with clear examples of what the person does well + how they can improve.

likesmartfunny

Last week team dynamics took a turn for the worst (even tho in each retro the team always commend each other, you would think team work is great). Team members get agitated with each other for being slow. Team members coming across rude and brash (the same ones are difficult to get hold to offer support, time is money is what someone said💰, the craziest was the client accidently sharing her whatsapp screen, commenting on people's feedback to what she was presenting OMG 😲 How was your week?

I’m dealing with a difficult management situation and don’t know what to do, how would you report someone when nobody really cares what’s going on or is automatically going to side with the other person?

like

Networking question here. A retired partner at the firm I used to work out reached out to me recently about attending an afternoon during the week (b4 4/30) with one of his long time clients. The partner and I have kept in touch since I joined my new firm and I feel like his invitation is a great networking opportunity since the client (who I have worked with before) is on a number of boards. Torn as how to request off as an S3. Could materialize to nothing but could be good for reconnecting.

like

Day of remote interviews at a tech co for in-house. 5 YOE. Planning on wearing a suit. Tie or no tie?

like

Feeling like it's only a matter of time before I have to tell the new marketing dept head that the snazzy jargon just makes him sound like a tryhard and alienates our customer base

like

Hi All! What pre boarding processes do you find most effective in your place of work to keep a new hire an engaged employee?

like

My manager got hired with 0 actual sales experience, comes from operations and marketing. It’s impossible to take any of his advice seriously, he ends team meetings and messages with “always be closing”. Like tf you know about closing, go back to making your PowerPoints.

likefunny

When do you think associates are usually let go in small practice groups that are currently being overwhelmed with work? Is it when it starts to slows down or when they already have a candidate to replace you? Just trying to figure out how long I have after annoying a partner 😂.

I got sent a very unclean Excel spreadsheet. When I asked a team member to remove our company email addresses, they asked “Is control F the easiest way to do this?” 🤣🤣🤣

likefunny

Reported a racist incident and now I'm feeling like I'm being blackballed. They are now giving my assignments to someone that works under me. How do I mange this?

like

How do youbset boundaries with coworkers. I feel like they won't figure out how to do stuff then I figure it out for them.

like

I’m not from an English speaking country but I am watching a tv show and businessmen walk into a room and instead of greeting eachother, everyone says each person’s first name in lieu of hi, however in my experience working in the states, I haven’t seen anyone do this, it’s always hi or good afternoon or some other greeting first THEN they say their first name. is it also appropriate to omit the greeting?

like

I just asked the partner if he got a haircut because his hair looks nice 🥴 why am i so cringe?? I swear I don’t know how to act around the partners lmao. Does this happen to anyone else or just me?

like

Small firm (my boss, me, & a paralegal). After a hearing I did not handle, boss intended to seek review of the ruling in its entirety. What was communicated to me by paralegal was to seek review of a portion.

Seeking review is now time-barred. Boss is not upset, but this is 1 case & 1 problem. There are other cases & other stories.

How do I talk to my boss about being more present (boss is never in office, has “too many” emails, never answers his phone) without being seen as insubordinate?

like

How did you give notice you were lateraling to people you like? Particularly if you haven't been there that long?

I'm lateraling to another firm because frankly I think the management of this one is terrible, but the people (and individual partners) I actually work with are awesome. I've only been here for about 18 months, so I imagine that short time frame will make it extra awkward 😬

like

Have any of you worked with team members / managers who take your work and sell it on, like it’s theirs to the broader stakeholders. How do you navigate around that?

like

How soon did you tell your office you are pregnant? When is the best time?

I’ll be asking my last job for a letter of recommendation but I’m not sure who to ask. My boss, who is lovely and would write an amazing LOR. Or my boss's boss who would put minimal effort in but it would have more weight.

like

More Posts

Cuba enforces a 15 day covid lock down. Fines are $150 (4x the wage of the average Cuban). Police on every road out of Havana making sure citizens have special permits and gas stations cannot sell gas to privately owned vehicles. Stores can only sell to those that live locally.

funny

Emory or Oxford MBA and why?

like

female here...I feel like quarantine is driving me crazy and I’m looking for a distraction. Recently married but I don’t feel that sense of completion...I’ll admit I’ve always been one to stray but now I’m looking for an outside comfort more than ever. But even more so on top of that I think I’m struggling with feelings of being bisexual and never properly exploring it

like

Do you know what is the salary range for a Senior Manager II at Walmart Home Office?

like

Thinking about starting interviewing for a senior associate role in TAS/FDD. Any insight or tips to offer for the interview process? Also if you have any opinions or thoughts on how the culture/WLB differs from Big4/PA would be awesome as well.

like

How are these? Mens Suede Black from Todd’s

Post Photo
like

How do you get out of the burnout cycle? I’ve felt overwhelmed for a while and now I’m in the “can’t function at all” stage. It’s so hard explaining this to my manager because I already have a workload that’s lighter than others (not because of performance or my request). Any tips on how to get re-engaged, since the overwhelming feeling will come back?

like

Does anyone practice White Collar criminal defense in NYC or know a decent amount about it? Is it fun or fulfilling? Is it a good way to break into government work in the future?

like

Hey fishes,
Moving to Bangalore this month and need recommendations for a good area for a flat. My wife's office is in Manyata tech park and mine is in prestige ferns. Looking for a place somewhere in the middle.

Thanks in advance.

like

How does a panel interview feel like? Is there anything that I should be prepare for it? Any tips?

like

Does anybody have any thoughts on the Brooklyn Brothers NY?

like

I need infographic tips please!

likefunny

For those with spouses or family members who feel differently about COVID, what do you do? My husband and I have been on the same page up until now with the Delta variant.

like

Is PwC India will give revise offer letter in case of another offer with higher salary?

like

which is better to join atos or T-Systems ICT India Pvt. Ltd. atos offering slightly higher ctc
YOE : 7+
Tech stack : Java, Spring boot.

Looking for WLB and long term stay..

like

How do y’all deal with people at work who are stuck on stupid? Like they have no idea what they’re talking about and they REFUSE to learn. It’s like they have a god complex or something even with proof, maybe bc of their tenure at the company? Even if there’s valid data backing up that they’re wrong. Maybe it’s bc I’m a type 8 enneagram, but it frustrates the hell out of me!
So any advice would be lovely :)

like

This could be an interesting opportunity. I’m a youth soccer coach and have become very popular in our area. So much so that a local magazine is going to publish an article on me next month. With a marketable look, is there any pathway for me to utilize this opportunity for lucrative marketing deals? Open to thoughts and ideas.

like

Any thoughts on recent salary discussions?

Hey Everyone,

I will be joining EY GDS in August 2021. There's a pay component "Advanced Statutory Bonus" of around 26k per annum. Any idea what this is? Is it truly fixed or will depend on firm's performance?

Thanks!

like

Additional Posts in Tech

Does Coinbase send welcome gifts / swag to new hires during the first week?

funny

I’m currently a Grade 11 at Cisco. With the recent pay structure changes my annual comp will be $150k + 12% bonus. I live in a large metro area in the middle of the US. I’m looking to move around the company so that I can make commission but I don’t want to be an account manager. Can anyone tell me if there are Customer Success Managers, etc positions that manage customers post sale and have a similar range base as me with commission plans? I’m just trying to understand income potential.

like

Is it possible to work in big tech without moving to California? I hoping to move to the east coast.

like

Does anyone get weirded out that doctor's offices still use fax machines? It's like - what else are they doing from the 80s/90s?

like

My company, Pegasystems, is agressively hiring for Senior Solutions Consultant (presales) positions nationwide. If you are interested in working for an amazing company with market leading products and a great culture, please message me. Happy to discuss further. Assuming you are reasonably qualified, I can provide a referral as well.

like

Hi all! Looking for some advice please!
I am looking to stir my career into a Project Management role. I have some work experience in managing IT Projects but don't have the title. Is working towards a PMP Certificate worth investing time and money in worth it or should I just apply for a PM role?
Thank you in advance!

like

How long will the Salesforce hiring freeze last?

like

Hello fishies, can I please get a referral for AWS? Looking for Program Manager, Computer Vision role! Thank you heaps!

like

Been working at my company as a new grad for almost a year, but don’t see myself in the team that I am in (working with Salesforce) for long term. Interested in frontend dev and have been learning on my own. Manager says chase doesnt have much React opportunities. Is it possible to make a switch when I barely have experience? Are there companies that will hire by seeing that I am willing to learn and am interested in frontend even tho I don’t have much experience with it yet?

like

Just wanted to know how much a resource promoted to SA from A will make in Chicagoland area Vs a resource traveling from India to US in the same designation as SA in cognizant. YOE 11years.

like

Hi all, was hoping for clarity on offers from FANG/Tier 2 tech I received recently. Base pay is still within range of 130-150K, but equity components have dropped dramatically. For reference, for similar positions, I was receiving grants of 150K - 200K over 4 years for data analyst positions (4-5 YOE) in Aug’21-Feb’22. For personal reasons, I did not accept these offers. Now the equity grants are coming in like 50-70K over 4 years. Is this market wide for non SWE/PM roles due to stock market?

like

Hello all,
As a SWE at @
Microsoft, how easy/hard is it to collaborate on research with Microsoft Research? I’ll be joining Microsoft soon but I am also interested in AI research and have published a few papers. Microsoft

like

Has anyone rented office space over the last year so that you didn't have to be stuck in your home all day? Was it worth it, or did you just feel lonely there?

like

I work with someone who always makes subtle digs at my code. Like they’ll say good job… and then they’ll say there’s space to refactor/improve code quality and we can handle that later. I get that you can always improve code but it’s so irritating. Any advice?

like

Anyone know of a company that would allow me to work remote from Mexico part of the year?

like

I have been interviewing for a new job but I keep hearing about layoffs and a recession coming. Is now a bad time to switch jobs?

like

At what point do you disconnect from Slack? Do you feel guilty if you take the night off completely?

like

Cont. from Previous Post 3 mos 8 rounds: Thank you for your interest in NR. We appreciate the time you took to apply for the CSM position. We were very fortunate to have a strong group of applicants to consider for this role and have recently filled this position. Unfortunately, because this role is no longer available, we will not be moving forward with your application. We will hold onto your application, and if a position opens that closely matches your skillset, we may contact you.

Hi all- I’m a first year staff who works in Forensic accounting & compliance. I am almost at 1 year in PA, & have come to terms that this career is not for me. I am a creative at heart & interested in working in the music business/ tech industry. My PA experience has provided me with hard skills, which is why I think it would be a great segway into the music biz & entertainment industry. Please react/comment if you are in the music biz/tech field. Would love some advise on how to pivot!

like

Apologies if it is off topic.
My brother has over 20 yoe in electric and 10 yoe in solar engineering including owning his own small solar company. He is looking to relocate to US or Canada. Can anyone provide any lead on which companies provide sponsorship? H1B or Canadian work visa. Thanks!

like

New to Fishbowl?

Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
That was just a preview…
Sign Up to see all discussions
  • Discover what it’s like to work at companies from real professionals
  • Get candid advice from people in your field in a safe space
  • Chat and network with other professionals in your field
Sign up in seconds to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.

Already a user?
Login here

Share

Embed this post

Copy and paste embed code on your site

Preview

Download the
Fishbowl app

See what’s happening in your industry
from the palm of your hand.

A phone with Fishbowl app

Scan your QR code to download
Fishbowl app on your mobile

Download app

Sign up for free to view this conversation on Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy

Already have an account? Log in

Sign up for free to continue using Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use(New) and Privacy Policy(New)
Messaging rates may apply

Already have an account? Log in

For account settings, visit Fishbowl on Desktop Browser or

General

Legal