I just asked the partner if he got a haircut because his hair looks nice 🥴 why am i so cringe?? I swear I don’t know how to act around the partners lmao. Does this happen to anyone else or just me?

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Why is that cringe? You noticed a change and commented on it. Personally I would avoid commenting on appearances (unless someone brings it up) for HR reasons, but you didn't say anything horrible.

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Ah! I get that. It'd hard to develop a repor with partners at work (especially when there are big demographic differences). I personally haven't yet figured out how to bridge the divide. My default is to ask them personal questions (how was your weekend? How is your pet/significant other/child, etc.)

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Lol I'm a F and we have one male associate who will compliment me by saying, "Would it be inappropriate if I told you your hair looks nice?" 😂😂😂 he's so gun shy about compliments.

Nothing wrong with what you said

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Thats why I only insult my female colleagues. Better safe than sorry!

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