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Isn’t this the whole point of dating apps? To get to a date? I don’t see the issue. People aren’t there to find texting buddies lmao
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If you don’t ask me out within two days of matching I’m unmatching. Adults don’t need pen pals
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I like to exchange enough messages that I feel like I want to spend at least a couple of hours with that person. There’s no magic number; but I like enough back and forth to get a feel for the other person. It’s usually more than two.
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After you’ve been on the apps for a while, you get tired of having the same small talk literally a thousand times. “What do you do for a living?” “What are your hobbies?” All that stuff can be saved for the first date. Now, if you need a bit of back and forth to feel safe meeting up with a stranger in person, that’s totally fair. But I’d say getting asked out sooner rather than later isn’t necessarily a red flag.
Also, yes, that’s a good thing. That’s the whole point. I have a friend who literally tells guys that she doesn’t like to text too much before the date, to save all the “get to know each other” stuff for in person.
If a guy doesn’t ask me out (propose a day/time) within a few messages I drop off. I don’t need a pen pal.
My dating apps are full of guys that I’ve matched with and have never just expressed interest in actually meeting. The guy who says “want to grab a drink or coffee next Thursday?” gets a date.
Hmm as a woman I feel that it’s a little soon. It feels impersonal/like he just asks out everyone that he matches with.
While meeting in person is essential I prefer to have at least some sense of whether we click beforehand and don’t want to go to the effort of meeting if it’s definitely not going anywhere.
If it really is that soon I’d propose a FaceTime “date” first. If he’s weird about it, move on. Your time is valuable and if he doesn’t value that now it’s not going to get better.
Also recommend asking a guy to FT if a convo shows promise but is also dragging on…In general I prefer for a guy to ask me out, but for FT/to see if it’s worth it idrc.
I don’t get it, you both joined a matching app, and when a match asks you for a date you question it? This is odd.
Then why use a match app at all then, Makes no sense to me. There are many match apps, and there are also many creeps so once you put yourself out there you are making a commitment to find love, if you don’t trust the app to vet people or people themselves, stay away.
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Depends on how excited you are for the date?
If the guy’s profile was great, and the way he asked or what he planned is fun - prob say yea and just schedule.
Otherwise, might just say thanks - would like to get to know you a bit better first, but could be fun to (date idea)