How to deal with toxic people who push your buttons and try to pull you down all the time!?

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Just focus on your work and keep getting better. Everytime I used to tell my mentor all this about toxicity and this that, he told me the only way to deal with such situations is to always keep work as focus and blur everything out

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Honestly, I just focus on the good people around me. If there is even a single person who is good anywhere to me, I fixate on that. It's like training your mind to ONLY focus on good experiences and slowly it seeps into your subconscious and you start acting in ways which create more of those feelings and then it becomes a loop. Sorry if it wasn't the answer you wanted to hear. I just felt that we can't change people but we can surely fix our perspective

Ignore them. Dont give any importance to them.

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