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What I feel is if you have knowledge then people will treat you nicely and you'll get lot of respect and if you stuggle to understand minute things you'll be treated bad.
Prove me wrong.
That's rubbish. For what these evaluation process , snapshot discussions, check ins and ratings are there for ? Are they not there to tackle these things. If a person is not knowledgeable he / she should be given proper feedbacks and coments on the way a resource works. No one has the rights to ill treat any resource , as if all others are born genius and capable of delivering proj single hand .
@author,
Have you been assigned a counsellor or a buddy yet ? If so, I would suggest you speak to them. They are there to help you and make sure your health doesn’t take a toll at Deloitte. Be as frank as possible and tell them the whole truth
If they are not assigned a counsellor / assigned a bad one, I would suggest you either take it up with the perpetrator, saying “ hey, I get that I am new and still learning the ropes, but I would appreciate it greatly if you would tell me what I’m doing wrong or at the very least refrain from talking down to me” if it gets too far, you can even say “I don’t want to be put in a position where I have to report members to HR for engendering a hostile work environment”
Remember your mental health is the biggest thing here, this is just a job, you will find a better one, don’t let it take a toll on your mental health. I’m not telling you to quit, I’m just suggesting you exercise your options
Something similar happened to me once where I was ridiculed and my point was dismissed in a public meeting by someone one level senior to me.
I didn’t do anything then, but after the meeting I took the person aside and explained my point to them, and told him straight to his face that he shouldnt ridicule me if he doesn’t understand what I’m saying. He never did that again .
Fact: Folks in hyderabad treat north indian differently. They presume thing like I would abuse a lot, stereotype etc etc.
Yes it happened with me.
I am a South indian who worked in Gurgaon for a year and I was also treated badly so this south vs north indian thing is present everywhere.. it depends on the people and not the geography... You will find good and bad people everywhere
This is not good just for you but for whole team, if you need improvement in some technical stuffs. Put efforts. Talk to your immediate manager or lead. Make friends who knows best in your team. Show proactiveness. No one expect you to be expert. I have 11 yrs of work experience but I happily take help from my juniors who has less than 1 year of experience.
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Yess I understand
If things are going out of your hands escalate it. First have a conversation with your coach and dicuss the situation in detail , your coach will then talk to the coaches of the respective people who seem to be creating problems for you. Keep Talent team in the loop, if your performance scatterplot looks weird next time, they will investigate the matter. Always keep any proof of conversations and emails where any kind of inappropriate or demeaning language is used. Be active in collecting regular feedbacks on your work, keep frequent check-ins with both your senior and Manager because even though you don't work with manager you would want him to know about your experience with the project or engagement. Deloitte have strict policies over such harrasment but only if you are vocal enough about these issues. Many people keep on taking it because they are afraid that their rating will go down. If you reach out to right person and keep right people in the loop some strict actions can be taken.
Make sure to bring leadership in the picture if things still does not seem to get resolved.
Why am I suggesting this?
I faced the worst harrasment in my first year with a few people in my team, I was going to leave Deloitte but then I gathered all my courage and fought. At the end I proved them wrong and people involved in harrasment were terminated from the employment.
Just saying , such issues are everywhere from smallest to biggest corporates. If you don't speak you will always remain a victim.
Rising Star
Thankyou for this
Do you think there might be other reason beyond your work? Are you from a different community/religion or something your team doesn't like? Sometimes things are not so obvious hence asking.
There was a person in my team the general team didn't like just because he was from Delhi. It took us a long time to trust him and his work.
Any sort of abuse or harassment is not justified. In order to tackle this professionally I would recommend the following: 1) Have a direct conversation with this individual and your reporting manager about the issues you are facing and how that is impacting your work. Post your conversation make sure you send an email reiterating what you discussed, this could be used during YE by your coach incase they retaliate by giving an unfair rating; 2) work with the reporting manager to identify a logical roll-off date and move out of this team and/or account; 3) submit a LOOP survey highlighting how this individual and the manager can make improve the experience on the project.
Hope this helps
Hi, I have been through this and I completely understand your situation. The only way to deal with them is avoid them as much as possible and focus on improving yourself.
You can't let them affect your self esteem, they don't know you. But you know yourself and your worth. You have to be confident and give them a fit reply on there comments. Write 3 good things about yourself and 3 things which you can work upon to overcome the negativity
You can reach out to me if you need help
Hi,
I am not surprised to hear this. I would recommend that you log a complaint in Integrity Helpline of Deloitte. It's totally confidential.
Rising Star
Also are you sure it's confidential..
It's difficult what you should do is, continue to put in efforts ignoring what people have to say. Be nice to everyone.
If that is not working then try to talk to your managers/HR and take time off, if you feel that's also not going to help, message me and send me your cv for Zs.
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I was coping like that but now it's unbearable.
I think You are in the wrong place surrounded by people who lack kindness of may be they are comfortable with you for some reasons.
Suggest you to find a better team/place to get mental peace
Pro
I also feel the same, they have taken me for granted it seems.
Rising Star
2222 😎
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D USI1 .. seriously 🙂
I don't have the solution to your problem, but I pray for your strength, while you get a better team or a better job.
I have someone very close to me who went through a similar experience at Deloitte. She resigned even before completing the probation. On the positive side, within a month she got a better job at a higher pay scale. And has been happily working for 3 years now in her new workplace.
If you are not happy, please look out. The company pays you, not your colleagues, so they have no right to make personal comments. This is a cultural problem.
Rising Star
Thanks so much ... finally feeling somewhat relieved
Is the culture in Delloitte really this bad smh ?
Actually not. The culture is no where like this, but there are always bad fishes soon to be fished out of the system via loop surveys
If I may suggest an approach, First take it up with your Manager or SM, if that doesn’t work take it up with the SLL. If even that turns out to be futile, You need to call the integrity helpline and report it. I’m pretty sure they take this very seriously and they’ll help you out in any way they can.
I have seen this happen. And specifically on long running projects. People start to think that they own the place. They start to bully. It’s definitely not you. Don’t let them bring you down. I was in your place but every time, someone would pass a derogatory comment, I would pick myself up and work harder and I am way ahead of everyone on my team(both feedback and monetary perspective). Brush this feeling off and you keep working.
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There are such kind of people in plenty.
I had a team member in Tax who was senior to me.
He behaved in the similar manner. Used to pass comments, was rude, used to yell on floor and unnecessarily raise concerns
He did nothing the whole day...charged fake hours, boasted about who efficient he is while doing nothing. This guy screwed my ratings for 2 quarters.
Such are the people who try to pull down others to look big.
For 2 good years, we did not talk and things were getting worse.
Later, I tried to talk to him and see if we were able to have a normal conversation.
Somewhere, we are still not normal, however talking to him, discussing projects and problems have helped in my case.
But I do realise and understand that how difficult it gets to work with such kind of people and how impossible it becomes to ignore this behaviour and talk to them normally.
If you have any buddy, I would say please talk to him about this. Tell your coach about this and see if he is able to help
Hi
Am so sorry to hear that.
And moreover surprised that you have to go through something like this in Deloitte, where I have worked and vouch that overall it is very good.
I always had great support of my manager and team as a whole and everyone was of great support to me in beginning as well as end. I just moved from Deloitte and something I miss is the culture, so I assure you what you are facing is an odd behaviour and should not be let down by it.
I strongly suggest not to put up with this behaviour, and speak with you Coach immediately, if someone has been assigned. Be frank and open with what you are going through and don't hold back. Be sure to organise your thoughts before you go with example of instances where you felt let down by X person or team as a whole.
You can also speak with your manager' or if he is also involved in it , frankly, directly go to HR/ Ethics Helpline .. in my experience, anything that is brought to their attention gets recorded and on paper, which they have to act on.
Remember, you or I may be new to the org and may not excel in the work BUT doesn't mean we can't learn or do good in times to come, what matters is how much we are willing to and how the team/managers sets the environment for us, and this is not the ideal one for learning for anyone.
So, don't be shy and go ahead.
Rising Star
Thanks 👍🏻
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@everyone...thanks for being supportive and giving me solutions..I might have been weak in the moment .but I will not let it slide.
This will pass ..... they themselves seem to be troubled the same way by the common boss and hence in a way are preparing you for that
I had gone through this experience at the start of my career in Deloitte 7 years back, but I was outright in giving feedback to talent and immediately things got fixed, this is one alternative way you can think, but also weigh in they retaliation factor