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"Depends on performance" seems to be a very vague answer.
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Is there any policy, like you have to work for X years to be eligible for promotion etc.
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They grow up fast
And before you know it they will be gone
Seize the moment for yourself… cause you will regret if you don’t
hug them cause you will reach a stage when you want to hug them but they will not allow you to
Tell them you love them
Also remember they are just kids and don’t think like adults
We are dealing with a difficult teenager but we don’t give up and once we realized that the difficult behavior are just tantrums of a toddler with an adults physical and mental capabilities - things changed.
iPhone surfaces these videos when they were younger, and watching them hurts and makes me emotional. Passing of time feels overwhelming. Older one refuses to hug or give a kiss. She always used to say “cannot say no” and rushed to hugs & kisses when she was a toddler
I don’t know if it’s related to that, or what it is. Not sure what I’m looking for to be honest may be just ranting.
Forget your past. Learn the new ways of just spending time with your kids. Like any other skill, time will make those interactions better.
Try to find ways you can organically be involved with their activities and interactions. Following instructions is a broad spectrum so hard to comment on that … and sometimes I love kids not conforming to the boundaries and exploring to learn whats right/wrong/unsafe etc.
Be involved as a friend and for fun. Not because you have to do it as a responsibility. I know it’s easier said than done. Also, outside chance that your work keeps your stress levels up which drives impatience with kids. Observed that with myself so sharing a possibility. Good luck!
Also they will only follow instructions if you gain their trust.
Just wait when they turn 16 and 12. You will be suicidal
Read How to talk so kids will listen & listen so kids will talk by Adele Faber
Just because you provide income to your family, it doesn’t mean you’re a “provider”. Providing is more than that. You actually have to BE there for your kids.
You have to play with the kids as if you are their age. Meditate and improve your patience and over time perspective will change. You have to stop saying you are cut out this way. Don’t send that energy out anymore. It’s tough but rewarding if you slide into the skid.
Reaaaaallly get into the bottom of why they trigger the emotions they do. Just introspect and keep asking why?
For eg the 8 year old talks back ...why does that bother you? Is it because it's a loss of control ? Is it simply the noise ? Is it because your authority feels challenged ? Is it because the 8 year old has a point and you haven't developed the tools to deal with pushback that you likely wouldn't dare to do to a parent in the old country ? These are just examples - but having spent a little time in therapy for my career I realized the patterns of the fixes could be applied to any aspect of my life.
So what you get is clarity and clarity often gives you the tools on what to do next ...
Screaming at kids this age will only drive them away. Read scream free parenting. It will change ur perspective on parenting.