I have 3 daughters (twin 6-year olds and a 4-year old). My wife is full-time mom so bear a lot less of the responsibility than most parents and yet it is still so exhausting. When will it get easier? I understand teenage years brings different challenges, but the crying / whining seems to never end. I’m dying here…

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You are dealing with a lot. Three kids under 6 is not a challenge most people face. While having your wife a SAHM works for you — particularly financially, it must be pretty hard for her. Kids pick up on that energy and are even more chaotic. You need to find ways for both of you recharge (e.g. grand parent sleepovers, day camps, on-demand day care).

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Good advice. I’ve been bad about this. Need to make sure it happens more

Let you know, mine are 24 and 19 and hasn’t gotten easier yet. Older completes her masters in May

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But how has it not gotten easier at this stage? Genuinely do not understand. Terrified at this comment

Get a nanny. There’s no way you both can handle all 3 by yourselves all the time.

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This. Even if only 2-4 hours per day.

Very kid dependent. I found it a lot easier after the youngest was over 3 and then the best big jump is middle school when you can start leaving them home for some periods of time even just to be able to go to the store.

As they get older quality of time starts to be more important then total time as their lives get busy and you can’t possibly compete with their need for friend time.

8, 6, and 2. Though I can say the 8 yo is more independent and able to help in some circumstances, he still requires management. Routines like full-time school help, but come with daily challenges (homework, agendas, etc). Having a nanny gives us time for ourselves (workouts, catch up on work, etc). Mom and dad can’t be their best if they don’t have time to focus on mom and dad.

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