I have a colleague who actively ignores me. He will have conversations with people in a group but if I make a contribution he just ignores me. This has been going on for a year…. He only does it to me. He will wave hello or whatever but any attempts to engage with him and a wider group are always weird. This is during group social interactions. He’ll ask everyone questions but me. Today he mentioned needing medication for w headache and I offered some and nothing.

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He probably has a crush on you.

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Definitely not.

Yeahhh probably has a big crush and doesn't want to act funny so avoids you which coincidentally is acting funny

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Thankfully we don’t have to interact as much for work but I don’t feel comfortable in group setting where I am going to be ignored

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Is he married? He may be trying to avoid an attraction to you. Weird either way

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I don’t think so… he ignores me in public

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Okay, maybe I’m from a separate school of thought… but just corner him 1:1 and ask about it?

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Weirdo. As long as it’s not disrupting your work, I guess keep doing you?

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May be it's all in your head?

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Then you could probably set up a one-one session and gently ask about it.

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I mentioned it twice and gave up. Another colleague also female asked him and he responded to her. It makes me uncomfortable because he would invite me to group socials but behaves in this odd way when I’m present. What’s the point? I want to be social but not if I’m going to be treated as if I am invisible.

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Manager 2 easier said than done. It seems trivial until it happens to you and you’re bugging out trying to figure out if you’ve done something offensive or what the reason is. It’s natural human behavior to feel stressed if you’re isolated in social situations. We are social beings and if we think about basic survival being left out is harmful to your survival.

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People are weird. Ignore him

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My old office had a woman that half the guys actively avoided and half wanted to be best friends with. She was a walking SH lawsuit waiting to happen and she knew it / actively tried to box people into situations where she could get leverage that way. Are you a bit of a flirt? He could be worried you might try something that could put him in an awkward situation since tbh men are guilty unless proven innocent with these types of interactions nowadays (yes, it's dumb, but it's still true since HR doesn't care about facts, only headlines)

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I’ve never flirted with anyone in my office and he’s in a relationship

I was going to respond to this but my attention is on other people's posts.

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Yet you still responded…. 🤨😂

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I’m not in it and I don’t want to judge, but this is middle school mentality. If he doesn’t have time for you, he deserves no time in your mind.

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why is this a big deal? when people act odd around me, I just ignore them

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This is a wild idea, I admit, but...have you like asked him directly and openly? Like, "Matt, what's up? I just offered you some meds why did you ignore me?" kind of way?

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I considered it but I’m learning to avoid people like this unless necessary. I only went out with the group because I was under the impression something else was happening. I think I’m the future I would avoid that particular group. I’m okay with some of them but I don’t enjoy our interactions

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Update .. was waiting In reception to receive a client and this person said hello to me. I honestly would not have known he was there if he hasn’t said anything. Not sure what’s going on now.

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That’s really, really weird. Especially the part where no one else even seems to notice it.

The way I would deal with such a person is by ignoring them completely. Not even a single eye contact. A lot of them change after feeling ignored for some reason.

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