Does she still have feelings for him? I have a girlfriend for 5 months. She broke up with her ex 8 months ago. The other day I asked her to show me video of her birthday celebration. First she said she didn’t have any videos. Then se told me she feels uncomfortable showing me (her new boyfriend) a video, because of her ex being there. I said it doesn’t bother me because it’s her past and if she doesn’t have any feelings for him, she shouldn’t feel uncomfortable. Eventually she showed me a video.

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Seems more like you have a problem, than her not being over him tbh

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@OP You should listen to the song “Jaws” by Sleep Token, now as you’re building the blocks for that to happen in your relationship… ask - is that where I want my relationship to head. Hopefully answer is no, and we realize when to stop pushing.

"My gf set a boundary and I immediately pushed her to get rid of it. How is this her fault?"


Dude you kinda suck. Time to reflect a bit

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“If she doesn’t have any feelings for him, she shouldn’t feel uncomfortable”

Yea…. Because everyone operates with your logic and rationale when it comes to their emotional affairs

I think some of the responses here are harsh. But to their point, it’s not weird or suspicious that she was uncomfortable. I would be too, it may not make sense but I like to keep things separate. Has nothing to do with lingering feelings…

I understand what you’re saying. Separate from what?

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