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Sometimes you’re just not the vibe of someone at a workplace or even outside and that’s OK. You’re there to do well and shine through to your boss. Unless that person holds your professional trajectory, I wouldn’t waste any minute trying to please that person. Focus on people who will bring the best in you at your workplace.
Dont seek friendship. Keep it about the work. Not all people vibe well together.
Don't worry about it. Some people are just not very personable. You never know what they're dealing with in their own life, for whatever reason they may just be introverted. As long as you can do your work, just continue to be friendly. That's all you can do.
You could be dealing with an introvert, someone who came out of a toxic work environment, wants to be left alone, overworked, or maybe even hard of hearing.
Too many different possibilities could be going on. And it is probably 99% not you as a person.
I would suggest listening and watching how this person interacts with others. You might find a trend that you could build on. Some people have a resting angry face or need time to warm up to people.
If this person is in your department group, if you are inviting the group, invite this person. Keep reaching out. Show yourself to be trustworthy.
Your not the first person they have done this too and you won’t be the last. This person is seeking attention and behind your back keeping drama going on. They are called attention seeker. They also call mischief worker…meaning keeping confusion going on in workplace. Keep your head, put on smell- goods, wear best. Every day and get your hair done or hair cut wear best shoes. Put on I don’t care dress or suit and own it…..
I also have someone like that. I have done nothing to her either. Some girls just don’t work well with other females, I guess. Keep trying if she can’t meet you halfway, I wouldn’t worry about it. Maybe talk to your manager and see if she know why or maybe that is just how she works.
Are they only acting like that with you yet fine with everyone else? You need to ask them what you did wrong. If it's nothing, then carry on, it's on them.
I honestly don’t have anything that will likely be helpful but I’ve had experiences like this. Some people are just not quite well. Seriously. They don’t perceive things correctly and it doesn’t reflect on you. Just try to not take it personally.
Could it be that you were hired for the job they wanted (or was promised to them)?
As others have mentioned, some people are transactional in the workplace and everything is strictly business. Your only obligation is to be professional and treat them fairly. Sometimes trying too hard makes the situation worse.
Try not to let it bother you. Some people are just bitter from their own problems and they bring it to work. Just be nice and respectful, but ignore them. Deal with the friendly part of your team. If they ever disrespect you take it to management otherwise I would act like they were invisible unless they speak to me first.
That is the problem at my current job the idiot people. I do not even acknowledge their presence. People these days are miserable and misery loves company. And as simple as this may sound it took me years to realize no matter how good of a person you are, no matter how friendly and good at your job you may be not everyone is going to like you.
It's none of our business how people feel about us as long as there is no disrespect involved. I wish you the best. Just know when you have done nothing wrong and people treat you that way, you are not the problem. They are the problem and have something going on inside of them that makes them hateful or rude to others. Pity them! Take care!
I usually go with the “I” statements. For example, if there’s a specific moment where you’re noticing they’re annoyed or whatever, you could say “I feel like I’m creating frustration… and that’s not my intention”. Usually I say this when someone else is being feisty. It gives them a chance to pause and reflect on how they’re showing up… and then give you more context to what’s really going on. “Name it to tame it” as author Daniel Siegel says. 😊 Just a note- Don’t use you… so stay away from i feel like im frustrating YOU, or YOU seem upset with me. Because it’ll potentially trigger defenses. ;) the other avenue would be to ask questions about them and double click to build trust.
You win some. You lose some. Focus on those who actually like you and are in your corner. Nothing you do or say will make them change and it’s always better to direct your energy to those and who really matters to your career.