I have a week-long work trip coming up. Our toddler is in daycare and she's super easy right now, but my husband is panicking because he’s never solo-parented this long. He wants to take PTO, bring our toddler, and come with me. He’s left me for week trips twice, and I handled it fine while working full-time. I have zero sympathy and want to tell him to suck it up. Am I wrong?

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Nope. He can deal

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You need to set the precedence now that he can do this on his own so that you have flexibility to travel as needed. It’s all about setting that foundation early on. Equal partnership.

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Flying and staying in a hotel with a toddler is muuuuch worse than caring for a toddler in their familiar environment and home

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Once he gets through this first time, he’ll be okay with doing it from then on

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While it’s easy to leave your husband the same way he left you for his works trips, maybe you are just more capable of handling solo parenting? Ask him what he’s worried about and how you help alleviate that some of that stress. I know it’s annoying…but trust me it helps the both of you in the long run.

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Give him ideas of ways to use time -

go to a Burger King play place, go to a park after daycare, set up a playdate with grandparents, watch a movie one night, make pizza together, buy a new toy to play with, buy a bath bomb.

Be ok with the bedtime routine flexing some (my kids always sleep in my bed when my husband is out of town).

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I want to know what he’s afraid of lol

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Your husband needs to pull it together. He can do it. He’ll be fine. He’ll be tired. But not more tired than you would be trying to work and having your kids in a hotel room.

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He needs the experience. He can do it and will be a better dad after.

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Not only can he figure it out, as a dad of three, I can tell you he and your toddler will be better off for it, because there's bonding that takes place when you're the solo caregiver that he's missing out on until he starts doing it.

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Ummm…no. The whole point of a business trip is to get away from your family — not bring them with you! But seriously - dad can figure it out. He may not do things the same way you do, but that’s ok. He’ll be fine.

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