I met this guy in Dec while traveling. He doesn’t live in the same state as me. He is of Arab / levant descent and is traditional, but doesn’t practice Islam (but still tries to follow the rules without praying?) He said i should take him out for dinner, that he thinks I’m smart, that he misses me and while traveling he would glance at me and make eye contact. Today i told him i wanted to see him and he said that he wants to make sure i don’t have feeling for him and that we are just friends.

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Run. People with honest intentions are clear. People who want to play games are not clear.

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He sounds sketchy, but not because of his religion. If someone feels the need to communicate in cryptic ways, it's highly likely they aren't honest.
I would NOT communicate with him any further.

Trust yourself. (You already have the answer, but you're just not believing yourself. Hense, you feel the need to verify here.)

BELIEVE YOURSELF.

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Run away! You deserve better

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He wanted you to take him to dinner= he thinks he’s the prize. Run far and fast from this man and do not look back

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100% narcissist behavior

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This seems like pretty much textbook gaslighting

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This may be old fashioned, but why is a man asking a woman to take him to dinner, especially if he wants to be "just friends", and he's missing you?

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Nyc isn’t working out for me. Can’t even imagine how it is for avg looking women if it’s not working for me

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VP, you seem very naive. Please be careful with who you trust and who you give access to your heart.

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I hope not to offend you, but as a Vice President in your profession, you sound very naive to even think about falling for this person or trusting what he’s saying, including falling for him saying he’s going through a divorce (probably the most famous line for men seeking extra marital affairs). Have your antennas up always and run from men like this. Don’t be desperate. Be smart.

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You should take him to dinner???? Run from this one as fast as you can.

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please don’t. end your interaction with this guy immediately. all the commenters here so far are on the right track. you’re setting yourself up to be the side piece. If you’re looking for love you need a weapons mix of online volume (i know it’s tough), referrals from friends and family and keeping yourself open in hobby settings: martial arts, gym classes (not just going to a gym), run club etc. Travel puts you into a heightened emotional state so you have to be more cautious for the kinda guy you described above. if you meet someone while traveling they should have ZERO red flags and have plenty of green ones: common interests, shared values etc. Who you pick as a partner is going to be a key determinant of your quality of life. I don’t know you but you can and will do better than this guy.

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do what women do best, stay friends! Ha!

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Apparently, i read all those signals wrong. I’m not sure if i am actually this bad at reading men or if he was leading me on. I’m an American, south Asian, not Muslim.

I never thought about him lying about it - i just believed him when he told me he was getting divorced. I asked him why he’s getting divorced and he said he will tell me “someday.” Maybe he is still married and you’re right.

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Are you male or female? What's your religion?

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This guy is dangerous on many fronts. Not only can you not trust him about his marriage, but he’s also being sly about everything - using mind games/reverse psychology. He’s likely a practicing Muslim of some degree and is ashamed of being chauvinistic and forceful of women - keep in mind he’s a NATURAL gaslighter and narcissist which becomes a big problem in ANY relationship women.

Thanks for all the input. He was seeing someone else and told her that we were friends and told me the same thing while he was leading me on to be the second choice. Came clean today because it’s Ramadan 🙄 and he wanted me to know what happened and how she rejected him so now he likes me 🙄🙄. What a load of shit and what a loser this guy is. (Yes I’m upset but i will get over it).

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