I normally leave right at 5 but I had some bigger things going on this week that I actually want to work on for once. My partner and I are hardly seeing our 8 month old baby. Cont...

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I mean, if this is a freak thing, I would consider yourself lucky and realize it will pass. If it’s a regular thing, then there’s a problem. I have intentionally held myself back for my kids when they are little. No one ever puts that they worked on an amazing ad campaign on their tombstone. Just my honest opinion. Not always popular.

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That sucks OP. It sounds like you’re not getting the balance you want right now. A couple of options for you to think through as a mom who’s out of the breastfeeding phase now. Have you defined what success is for you right now in your career? It’s easy to accept others definitions as your own and having a babe is a perfect chance to decide for yourself. Second, is what you’re doing aligning with those values and principles? I have found people respect and uphold my choices around W/L balance more when I frame them around my values. And third, are there any options on the table you haven’t explored? For example could you try a different schedule, shift your hours around or work from home? Finally talk to people about it at your agency. Get their perspectives. The goal is to make this thing sustainable.

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We are beyond lucky that my parents watch her but I feel so bad when they bring her to my house at 5 and I don’t get home until 8:30. A) she should be asleep and b) that’s a long day for them. They don’t complain but I still feel bad. And then bad that I didn’t see my kid except to breastfeed her to sleep. And bad for my wife who didn’t see her at all because of her crazy job that pays way more money than mine does. Oh fuck, this is that mom guilt I’m always hearing about.

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☝️ What they said.

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This is why I quit my last job.

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I'm right there with you. No advice, just know you're not alone. Weekdays I see my 8 month old son for an hour in the morning, and an hour after work before his bedtime. It sucks. :(

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