Question for married family men at MBB,

how do you balance work and family life?

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The balance for me was an understanding that there would be no balance for 2 years then I’d leave

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... Makes me sad 😅

Have a very understanding wife - though you just have to set boundaries (which is much easier being WFH). For example, I dont work from 5-7pm since it is my family time

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Similar situation to KPMG 1.

Trying to figure out how to set boundaries and still look enthusiastic at work

(1) Have a very understanding spouse with a 9-5 or who stays at home, (2) try to optimize for sustainable cases, (3) maximize family time on weekends and Fridays by outsourcing house projects. If you don’t have #1, a nanny is a must IMO

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No balance

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Not a man, so you may not want my opinion.

However, I don't have a problem with it. My SO also works, sometimes as late as I do. We both regularly work past 7 and I would expect you will too. I find it more difficult to manage expectations and set boundaries when I am home vs when I'm traveling.

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Luck is definitely a part of it. However, there are a few other things I've done that might have an impact:
- connected with many people early on and co tibue reconnecting with them regularly + asking to work with them when I am available
- go above and beyond by doing non-project work when I have time and interest
- work quickly and turn feedback into action immediately
- be proactive and take ownership of the problem/workstream (much more important to folks at my firm than endlessly working on documents)
- generally being a positive, pleasant, energetic person to work with so that people give me strong references (something we do in both directions before agreeing to a project)

Again, the luck of working with great people on meaningful but not super intense projects is probably the biggest one. And once I move to a project lead role, this may all change. I'm confident you can make it work; I hope you don't get unlucky is all!

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Drew a red line with leadership and they supported my ask for a sustainable rhythm

This!

That's what I'm trying to figure out if it's possible.

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