I want to do an MBA in the next 2 years. I’m currently up for Senior consultant promotion but I don’t think I can make good money in consulting till I become Partner. My boyfriend isn’t supportive of this decision. He believes it will alter our plans (marriage, children etc). He also thinks immigration will be a big hassle since I’ve already used my 3 years of OPT. What should I do?

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Uhhh ya can we throw the whole bf away? Lol. Unless you have a ring on your finger, don’t let him dictate your life …even then, a good partner shouldn’t discourage a good thing…it’s called working together and figuring out how to manage certain changes and navigate through it. I’ve been there …gave the ring back, lol. Found me a man that says “oh PhD? Do you boo, what do you need from me to make this journey easier for you?”

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Oh for sure! PhD route is very ambitious while still trying to work full time…PLUS traveling …it’s pretty much nearly impossible…though doable, time management skills are pretty much slim to none here. But I was more focused on the supportive partner aspect.

That’s definitely doable, screw your bf

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If you've done your research and the MBA is a good investment long term, then go for it. There are programs that you can take at night if finances are a concern. Ignore the BF. If he is trying to hold you back, then he's not being supportive and you don't need that negativity. Talk to him and explain your thought process. He'll make his own choices

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Talk to your Boyfriend and tell him why it is important for you. If he agrees great.If he doesn't agree and makes a.huge fuss about it leave him, this means this is not a mature relationship. In a relationship it is better to be in one if both are growing you can't just let one grow and the other sit behind. Education and knowledge is most important. relationships can disappear but your knowledge never will

Female here that took too long to start having kids and probably won't have as many b/c of it. Make sure this decision aligns with your other life goals like when you would want to have kids. It doesn't need to align to your bfs (ya'll aren't married - ps don't get married until you are aligned) but it does need to align with your own goals regarding having kids (and realistically with your biological clock).

You do what is right for you.

BF sounds controlling and selfish to me.

Context: as soon as I exit my (lengthy, convoluted) relationship shortly I am going to revisit my graduate education as well so this question personal for me. I spent too many years listening to the SO and after years of “give an inch take a mile” I am miles from where I want to be so I’m pivoting hard now.

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