I went to a masseur in LV last week and this massage turned sensual. He texts me today saying he’s HIV + undetectable and he tested positive for gonorrhea yesterday. This was my first such massage experience and I feel my world has fallen apart. Our genitals touched and kisses. I did my tests this morning and waiting for results. 😌😌 why didn’t he share this before booking an appt! 😭

This is a bit specific of a Q, but has anyone here gone to an ED treatment center in NY? Which one/Did you find it helpful?

I feel like I wouldn't get many tips as a server because I'm a guy, is this really true or am I just making it up?

Anyone had any luck getting leftover vaccines? Have you waited in line at a site or called ahead?

Where does everyone work out? Are you following a specific program or do you do your same routine from week to week?

A sleepy summer Sunday watching the end of a great test cricket match, grabbing a beer with friends and glorious weather. Honestly it is the first day since covid that life feels normal for me

Has anybody else experienced (what seems like) irreversible physical damage from working long hours? I worked about a month of 19 hour days 2 years ago (this was the peak of the season where I worked at least 12 hours a day) and my facial skin hasn't really recovered and the experience really aged me.

Saw my therapist this past Friday and he gave me a useful trick to build better behavior patterns. Whenever you have work to do but would rather nap or something, tell yourself 3 negative effects of the nap and 3 positive effects of doing the work. You might still take the nap, but if you can get in the habit of thinking of it negatively, you'll take less naps when you need to be doing other things.

Doesn't matter what the activities are. Could be working out vs eating more, could be socializing IRL vs wasting time in FB (lol)

Anyone else heard of this/tried it?

Went on a short coffee date with a person who was nice, but I just don’t think we’re compatible. What’s a kind text I can send to explain, after they said we should see each other again?

Any Punjabi guys here? 26F, west coast

Anyone know of any good road bike cycling clubs? In NC, I used to ride every Sunday with a club that was networked with the only brewery in town. But Denver’s so big I don’t know where the local group rides are…I’m in the West Highlands area

My brother is going through some really intense chemo so him and his wife are often recovering at their house for a week without going out.

Since they can’t take any visitors I would love to send them some sort of at home activity kit (wine tasting or anything!) to keep them busy during these lockdown weeks.

Please share any suggestions you have below! No limits in terms of activity or budget. I have about 8-9 weeks that I plans to cover.

Thank you!

I’ve been going through it this month. Was on Buspirone for 4 weeks which caused a n of depression. Now I just started Zoloft and I’m feeling extra anxious and hypersensitive. One of my colleagues made fun of an idea I suggested and I’m taking it way more seriously than I should. How did your journey go to get on meds and adjust to them? I hate feeling so up and down.

Anyone else look in the mirror and have trouble internalising the fact that they’re pregnant? Im 5.5 months and it still is conceptually so weird.

Oral surgeon recommendations in the area? I need to get my wisdom teeth removed.

Big birthday coming up in a few months and wanting to do things I have never done before (tattoos, surgery, etc.) What have you done as a result of a mid life crisis?

Recently took up running, and looking for a light weight but warm vest to wear. Something good for temps between 30-40 degrees and can squeeze in a carry on. TIA!

Anyway to slim down legs; just want to smooth out this massive imbalance that the body seems to favor to the downside

Does anyone take Xanax to combat anxiety?

Which navigation apps do you prefer using besides google maps for driving long distances?

I joined in April. When will be next salary increment ??

5th September is my last working day at Infosys. Yoe=4+ yrs
Tech= aws devops
I hold an offer of 18LPA from KPMG with joining date of 7th September. (Wfh)
I applied at Workday on 15th May and went through 7 technical rounds of interview and received a verbal offer letter of 21LPA (hybrid)
Now apparently their technical panel "forgot" about the interview and wants to have a discussion again as 8th technical interview. HR says their joining date will be 19th September.

Should i join KPMG?

Iam 5 month pregnant , thinking to get release from project due to health issue and taking maternity leave from april 1st, at this situation can I be in bench for 3 months and go in maternity leave ? Will this affect my job in Accenture? Will the organization allow to be in bench for 3 months? If iam in bench during maternity leave will i get variable pay

Hi All,

I'm searching for job with WFH 🏠. I have Java microservices experience of 5 yrs. Also the notice period is 3 months.

But I'm not able to find much opportunities. Please let me know if you know any companies or refer me in.

Thank you in advance!

I’m considering straightening my teeth. What are your experiences with Invisalign vs. Smile Direct vs. other options? Any big differentiators?

Do you pay your credit cards in full every month?

I ask because I’ve let my credit spending get a bit lax since moving and adopting a puppy recently, so I haven’t been paying them off in full every month like I used to (though still well above the minimum payment, and keeping utilization at 30% or under). It got me thinking about how many people adhere to this advice.

Which is the more lucrative and flexible long term career path when comparing .NET development vs salesforce development.

By flexible I mean in terms of moving between positions, companies and technologies.

I've done both and am currently doing salesforce development but don't want to get pigeonholed.

Who do you think the jags will pick first in the draft this week?

Has anyone looked into CND or FUN? I looked into DATA, IOTA competitor and looks interesting.

How on earth are you guys getting into these AMD calls for 5/1? The theta is scaring the devil out of me. I almost went with the peer pressure yesterday and then backed out (I am bullish in AMD)

Wanting to take advantage of the current market. 20K to get going. What are good passive income ideas in todays economy? What would you do?

Hi Fishes,
What is your take on WILP in MBA (offered by Institutes like BITS Pilani)?

I seriously need to take a decision on whether to continue working and enroll in MBA or go for a full fledged MBA course.

Please Help!

Thoughts on $50k for a visual designer in NYC?

Starting to get more involved in the project sales process - any recommendations for books or resources to develop skills in this area?

How Can we changed the Project in Wipro.

I think I want to be in relationship, but I fear that I actually am just lonely and not actually ready for relationship.
I desperatly want someone that I can spend time with, laugh with, and tell good news to amongst so much else.
I don't know what to do or if anything can be done...

Thoughts anyone?

Matched with a guy on Tinder. Had a great first date. We are stilling chatting on WhatsApp. But he has disappeared from my tinder (presumably, he unmatched with me). Is it typical for ppl to unmatch on Tinder when they are still interested in you?

NYC 🐠 Anyone try the dating app MOTTO? Any good?

There’s now a lawsuit in Texas challenging PREP. How much longer do y’all plan to live in the US? This is actually how I predicted this would unfold. That folks with moral objections would file a lawsuit like this, and then get it up to The Church for review, and then overturn Lawrence v Texas. This is just happening a lot faster than I thought.

Any Deloitte folks going to DU this week?

Not sure if other firms are the same, at EY we can add “🏳️‍🌈 I support inclusion” in our email sig. Most people from Unity ERG don’t. If you don’t, why not? Particularly during Pride month.

Kinda bummed. I’ve been single for 6 years (I’m 31 now). I live in ptown and talk to guys in Boston on tinder. Was talking to a guy for about a week who is my type. I asked if he wanted to FaceTime tonight and he said sure but caveated that he isn’t into long distance (ptown to Boston) and that we would most likely stick to chatting. Idk what’s wrong with me. Everyone tells me I’m a catch but guys I’m attracted to are never into me 😭 just needed to vent

Anyone Boston next week?

Dude 🐠. Heading to Deloitte soon, want to get some better clothes. Maybe 3-4 new fitted suits, trendy but professional. Don’t want to spend a fortune. Any ideas on your favs?

Anyone at the Q center today/this week?

Gay men in NYC?

One year in NYC—24, enjoyed myself, but no deep connections with new friends/partners. Came to hopefully open the door on a variety of opportunities, but something tells me that spending another year here will not help that. Money flies, space is cramped, not thrilled with my office, hate winter. I miss LA a lot—I miss driving, the weather, the space, people...but everyone tells me I have to give NYC at least 2 years. Thoughts?

Who here have abs 😬

Do you all still go to Barry’s boot camp? I am dying for an actual workout but don’t want to be one of those vanity gays going out in a pandemic.

Solo trip to Puerto Rico. Any recs? Thanks fam.

Hey. Is anyone here from Capgemini? Looking forward to interact.

I want to buy my husband some underwear for Valentine’s Day. What brand do you guys like?

“You are lucky that I’m talking to you right now” - is this type of response too cocky ?

I could be your next husband. Slide in my DMs to find out.