I work in audit at one of the Big 4. I am very lucky to still be able to work from home most of the time. But I am still overworked and there doesn’t seem to be enough time in the work day to get everything done, even in non-busy season times. My husband thinks that just because I work from home I could run downstairs at some point in the day to do some sort of meal prep for dinner. There is absolutely no way I could do that, especially not on a consistent basis. I’ve (continued in comments)

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He's not being unreasonable. Your job is.

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This isn’t about trying to cook dinner after normal work hours. Yes, the workload and struggle of work/life balance is unreasonable at times, but there’s nothing I can do to improve that on my own so it is what it is for now. In the middle of the day I should be working as expected. Otherwise I’ll be stuck working later into the night. I already have to step away at a certain point to get my oldest to/from school/activities. I don’t have time to do dinner prep during the work day. 🙄

It’s tough. In same spot. We take turns on cooking dinner. Use a crockpot so you can throw it together in the morning and forget it til dinner. Tried the meal prep boxes but it still takes time. Cook meals on Sunday and freeze so it’s quicker to just warm up?

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(continuation) tried explaining this to him, but I still don’t think he really gets it. Please help me to get him to understand that this just isn’t a reasonable request. I would love to have time to do things like this, but as long as I remain in my current career (aka unless we win the lottery) it just doesn’t seem possible.
For context, we have 2 children, an 8 year old & an 18 month old, so life is very busy for both of us. He works in residential construction & often doesn’t find time in his day to eat, even when he brings lunch. So even if he was able to magically meal prep on the go, he also wouldn’t be able to find the time to do so during work.

We all wish we would win the lottery. 😊😎🙏

I would suggest you take maternity leave and look for another job. Audit busy season is worse, there is no wlb.
Go to industry, there may not be a big jump in salary but the hours will reduce. For meal, order bulk food from costco or BJs, that should save you some cooking time without costing you a lot more.

That’s a couple years down the line. Yes I’ve been through a few, that’s pure survival mode times. Currently trying to figure out the “normal” times.

Maybe have your husband pick up some more responsibilities around the house so you feel less stressed

We both have plenty of responsibilities around the house.

Cook for several days in a row, meal prep on Sunday afternoons, do take outs once a week, find recipes that take under 25 minutes.

It is not easy, but that’s not the reason to quit the job, in which you are successful and increasing your earning power. Unfortunately if your husband is not supportive, eventually it will lead to either you quitting or divorcing. This job can only be done if the spouse is in your corner.

Good luck!

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