If someone sends you a text to breakup with you and offers to chat with you on the phone, don't do what I did and talk to them shortly after. Let it sit for a couple of days to process it and then if you still want to talk, do so. There is so much I didn't ask and statements I didn't make because I didn't have a chance to collect my thoughts. Now I'll never have those questions answered. Gosh I feel down...

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Oh no!!! sorry to hear that. Take some time for yourself ☹️ i went through this less than 2 months ago too - they offered to chat after sending a text voice memo but I declined. My avoidant personality just don’t wanna hear it at that moment.

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Yeah I totally get that. I didn't mind talking to her. I just wish I had waited a couple of days to process it first before doing so. Now I'll never truly know why she ended it.

It doesn’t matter the whys, I’ve learned if it’s over it wasn’t meant to be, at the end of the day when you’re a true match it’s easy not complicated. Stay strong and healthy and take it a day at a time. You’ll meet someone!!!

It’s important to find your own closure. People rarely give us that. I hope you’re feeling a little better! I think no communication for weeks is good too!

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