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Hi all! Looking for a roomie in Culver City. New Yorker getting into the startup life and transitioning from data engineering to data science.
Looking at the Harlow for a 3 bedroom, want to convert the extra room into a home office: https://www.thewestsidecollection.com/harlow-culver-city-ca/
If you’re interested in the area lemme know!
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1- masculine, 2- no long fingernails, 3- well traveled, 4- high sex drive, 5- +\- 8 years my age, 6- has some kind of exercise or physical activity going on, 7- sexually compatible of course, 8- not immersed in the gay scene, 9- spiritual fitness, 10- no drugs or heavy drinking, 11- if older must be no less than 2” shorter, 12- dresses how I like, 13- not too clingy, 14- good kisser, 15- no weird diets (last guy i was dating only ate chicken and egg whites and broccoli for every meal, couldn’t go out to eat at places that could cook that.)
#6, not body type, just engages in some type of physical activity. #9, means what it means, holistically content - not angry, bitter, resentful, etc. Connection to or belief in something beyond the ego.
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The problem isn't what you're looking for, it is where you're looking. I think NYC is among the worst places to find a long term significant other. You have to deal with the paradox of choice, and others have to deal with the same. Moreover, the city's culture is all about "me" and "fast" not compromise or building for the long run, which impedes long term relationships which inevitably have some imperfections.
I feel like these are very baseline standards. I’m 38M and still single so who am I to give advice, but I’m starting to get out there and put myself in different situations than normal (creative spaces, classes etc) and it’s helped me meet more interesting people.
My spouse's commentary on this is that it takes meeting a lot of people - think how many people it took you meeting before you had good friends (out of everyone in school/college classes, other education maybe, early jobs, etc...) Finding someone you're even more & more intimately compatible with will take even more effort. Be ready to put it in, and in order to avoid coming across frustrated and fed up with the process or desparate (not attractive), do things because they're fun, to meet people who might be interesting. Don't focus only on your sex life. Don't avoid talking to people just cos you don't think they're hot - people have friends, might invite you to parties, you can get groups together of your own friends and get them to bring their friends.
Plenty of people in NYC. If online stuff doesn't work, go to in-person events, chat to people, try different sports/hobbies/social spaces. Try to unlearn any prejudices you have, and be a little flexible in your criteria. When I was in my 20s I thought I'd never consider marrying an American, but here I am, happily married to one for 12 years. Those rules you think are core but actually don't matter so much if the properly important ones are there (like respect).
You guys covered it , I want someone that is strong on the outside but more on the inside, that is good lover, white and that has a great sense of humor!.