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I don't think there's anything wrong with men in Finance. There are decent upstanding men in this field. My former love was in the USN-doesn't get more male driven than that. I think it is boils down to a matter of temperament, values and life goals. Some alpha men are attracted to submissive women and other alpha men want an equal. As long as the shoe fits... Cheers!
First of all, a ton of girls in finance date guys in finance. 5 out of 6 girls in my group are dating bankers...but if you must ask, I think one impediment is guys in finance don't want to date because they don't have time to, or at least that is an assumption commonly made
Agree with @barc1- where I'm from, this field is not considered manly. With that said, I am a female who is engaged to a finance guy. The qualities everyone has mentioned are key to a good partnership. An uphill battle many guys in finance date when dealing with women in finance is the "bro culture" that is pervasive on the Street. There are a lot of hot shot assholes that ruin the reputation for the rest of you.
I like a masculine man so if I had to choose an industry (and given mans character is even across the board), finance unquestionably. Some of these girls are more masculine themselves and like softer guys. I find men in finance are driven, hard working, focused, and depending on life stage, have their priorities in order. They're definitely manly men. Especially the senior ones. Overall, just preference.
Perhaps men in finance have higher self worth and hence women, although from same field with similar credentials, get in a competitive mode, which is not conducive to dating. Another theory- can call each other's bullshit upfront ;)
I think there's just a subset of men in the field who are too focused on bravado that give the rest a bad rep. Those guys are the guys no women want to have as a life partner. A lot of guys in finance are smart, determined and resourceful and I am strongly attracted to that.
@citi1 it's interesting that you come out with the whole "manly" thing- I don't think finance guys are particularly manly at all - just goes to show what the idea of "manly" is (which, in fairness, is a concept I think is a bit outdated anyhow). Things like "driven, hard working, focused" are characteristics of people in this field and are excellent things to look for in a partner and I think you're right in saying they also apply to a lot of women in our field. But I grew up in a town where things like "being good with numbers" (which is a prerequisite for banking) and "working in an office" were considered distinctly un-manly and people used to associate manliness with manual labour. Don't get me wrong, finance is a lot of a boys club - but my friends from home say it's exactly that - boys 😂😂
@JPMC1 northern England :D
@Barclays1 Gary, Indiana?
Isn't it actually the other way around? Seems to me that most men in finance are not really interested in dating women who are also in finance. You get the occasional fling - because of proximity I guess - but I've personally seen very few serious relationships
I think if the people connect then adjustments and compromise kick in, but at least they have something in common to talk about most nights.
Their jobs? Hopefully they have more in common than that
I thought most women get into finance to find a husband
Hopefully they would, if not then that would be so sad, perhaps that simple connection starts the spark of another, guess that the part of it all....the thrill of the chase.