If you have a family what age were you when you had your first baby and was it the right timing?

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33 and yes, we had just bought our first home at the time & I had been in the same job for more than 4 years.

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I had a second child 3 years later but it's different for everyone. You may have difficulty conceiving or being pregnant, your childcare costs may be too high, your baby might leave you so exhausted you can't face it again or many other scenarios. You can idealise and plan but life happens.

I had my son at 38. Perfect timing since I had a great job and had recently gotten married. We only have one child which is good in the sense that we can have him in many activities and is a great kid since he gets our full attention. Downside is that he doesnt have a sibling to share his life with. At this point I think having 2 kids is ideal.

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Why 2?

I think family is far more important than career. Have them when you want to. Your career will recover.

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I don’t have kids but my mom once told me that timing is not necessarily ever right but trying to plan/time a pregnancy is hard

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First was 27. No regrets. I think it was a great age to have a kid

I had my first at 28 and second one at 32. If I could do it over, I would have waited until 30-32 for my first child. Still, no regrets! I’m happy to be a young mom and look forward to sending my kids to college when I’m 48!

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