If you're confident when public speaking or giving instructions how did you get that way? I'm a soft spoken person and more and more I'm noticing myself either softening my tone or adding phrases like "if that makes sense." I think I'm undermining my own authority, how can I stop doing this?

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I also use softer phrases like that when I talk, I think it's something women are conditioned to do from a young age. The fact that you're noticing it is step one, next try to remind yourself not to do it!

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Start talking to yourself. I'm dead serious. In the mirror, in the car, etc. Practice what you're going to say out loud to yourself until you can hear confidence in your own voice. My voice used to shake when I spoke up to anyone, let alone in front of anyone. Don't give up!

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Practice, lots of it. With time, you'll notice changes in your speech and tone. I used to video record myself three times a week without the pressure of performing. In the long run, it really helped me grow in self-confidence.

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Honestly just fake it until you make it. I pretended that I was confident enough to give presentations until I did so many that it became natural.

I have a soft voice too and when I speak up I feel like I'm yelling but I'm realizing it's all in my head so I just "yell" to get my point across

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