I’m looking for advice.

I have a peer at work that is attempting to micromanage me and speak to me like they are my direct manager.

A few things to note, I am more senior than this person in terms of experience and tenure at my company, and I typically am asked to assist in more strategic tasks whereas this individual is assigned more tactical tasks.

How have any of you navigated similar situations in the past?

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I once worked with a coworker that micromanaged me a lot. It was strange because it would only happen when my direct manager was never around. I approached this situation two different ways.

1. I communicated with my direct manager and asked her if she asked my coworker to lead the team while she was away. If this was the case, then it was my understanding that per my managers request, I would follow in line with this individual. However, I would express my annoyance of that said individual to my manager.

2. I would approach my coworker and suggest that we should work together to lead the team/workload without the micromanagement.

Some people are naturally demanding without realizing they are being that way to others. This could come from prior leadership experience or even childhood behavior. Therefore, I would suggest being professionally direct with this individual and politely request that they stop micromanaging me.

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