I’m two weeks removed from my first breakup (27 years old). To say it was a shock is an understatement. I talked to her everyday for 1.5 years, and then in one conversation my best friend is just gone. While I’m starting to slowly move on from her, I can’t shake this feeling of gloominess hanging over my head. Not only do I feel sad and lonely, but the thought of starting from scratch when I’m eventually ready to date again is depressing to think about. Would love any suggestions, thanks!

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You just have to give it time. It will hurt for a while but you will find love again. And you will mourn the loss of that relationship and hopefully look back at certain moments from that relationship fondly while also recognizing that it wasn’t meant to be forever. Right now, it’s important to remember who you are outside of that relationship. Embrace this moment of independence. Spend time with friends, explore your hobbies, and do some self discovery! You’re amazing and you’re going to recognize how amazing your life is! Best wishes 😊

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You'll probably get to start from scratch multiple times! You'll get better at it. Hopefully you learned something about yourself. We all come into the world alone and you'll go out alone. The people you meet in between are just to pass the time.

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Some of my happiest (and lowest) chapters of my life were after a break up. It’s hurts like hell, but when I use the pain as motivation to grow, it’s a completely different experience. I learned a lot about myself because the pain motivated self-reflection and change. Keep busy. Hang out with friends. Read a book. “Love Languages” is a brain candy book that helped me see what I could bring next time. “Boundaries” was a great one that helped me to communicate my needs clearer. “Codependent No More” showed me how to focus on my own thought patterns rather than how to change my partner or even just focus on me and my behaviors, rather than theirs. Good luck. There’s a silver lining in the process 🥰

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Spend as much time as possible with friends. It takes time, and time spent with others is better. Also, if your friends are good, they’ll remind you you’re good enough just the way you are.

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You’ll get over it.

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Other fish in the sea. Work on you for a bit. Eat healthy, exercise, change out of your pajamas, do a hobby or activity you have been putting off, visit with friends or family, touch grass.

Stay away from destructive things like drinking alone, drugs, junk food,overly negative people.

Have to be able to stand on your own two feet again then the relationship stuff will just work out.

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