I’m working with an AP who I’ve worked with a long time - he still always says that I’m “over reacting” or “freaking out” on things when I feel I’m very clearly calm and legitimately wanting to discuss to learn and understand. What can I do to get him to stop having this impression of me?
(Tbh as a female I feel it’s a bit of a sexist reaction 😕)

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Somebody you’ve worked with for a long time has this view of you? Time to work with somebody else

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If you must work with him, then be honest and give him this feedback. If you don’t need to work with him, find another AP to partner with. 8 billion people in this world, don’t let this one soul make you feel down.

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Maybe ask for a couple concrete examples? And if the AP can’t provide them, then your thought is probably confirmed.

Sounds like after all these years they have gotten to know you very well which is unfortunate

Don’t care about his impression. He’s an AP. Most likely depressed and looking for an exit. Mind your business until you go to another study and team. From a feedback / performance rating perspective AP’s carry little to no weight anyway

OP what firm?

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