In a recent interview, a recruiter asked if I’m married and if I have kids. I was caught off guard and answered the questions but have been thinking about this since the interview. Should I have handled it differently or pushed back? This recruiter is from a major, reputable retained executive search firm.

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I was asked this question by a biglaw partner during an on-campus interview. I handled it by putting both ring-free hands onto the table and responding “no”. I just wanted to get up and leave. After the interview, the feedback was I had a weak handshake. I informed the career services of the inappropriate and discriminatory qs he asked. He continued recruiting at our school until he retired. Another reason why I won’t send $ to my law school.

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I haven’t decided… honestly. Weighing the pros and cons of doing that, especially since I don’t have any proof that the questions were asked.

Agree. It’s not appropriate to ask.

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Agree! I am upset at myself for not pushing back more…

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