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So you're in a weird dating age. The religious girls who want to settle young mostly settled in their early 20s and late teens. And the women who did not settle young are largely Secular Leftists who do not want to settle until mid 30s.
I'm in this boat myself too.
I don’t mind dating younger, but it’s weird for me to go for college students
I can't speak for women, but as a 39 year old man dating is much more challenging than it was in my 20s. However, I don't think it's age so much as the common state of mind these days where everybody seems to be so self absorbed. Pair that with an abundance of options with the rise of dating apps (whether the options are of quality or not) and you have a bunch of people with overinflated egos thinking they can always do better. This results in little engagement or desire to build any real connection.
Sincerely, a 39yr old successful millionaire who has given up.
Hey I’m only 5’4 🤷♀️
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My uncle got married at 90 to another woman in the retirement home (married 8 years until he died last year). He had alot of women to choose from all pretty close with things in common. So I'd say that was probably the easiest dating and he was pretty old.
Some women keep them scarce on purpose because they don’t want to be a nurse or a purse.
There are women like you, just maybe not that many in your area.
Houston is going to be your best bet. There's still a pretty strong culture in the south of settling down young. It's def not like it used to be, but it's still a thing.
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I think a serious relationship comes with time. It’s called falling in love. Probably won’t happen with apps. Go out, have fun, get involved with activities and your community, volunteer. Get off your phone.
Exactly. Just hang out, chill, try to cuddle, get punched. Or, you know, ask. As my most favorite girlfriend said when I opened up her bathrobe: "What the hell were you waiting for?"
I thought dating in college was easiest. You’re around young, attractive people who are your own age and have a similar suite of interests. People are usually still fit from highschool sports as well. For guys I would think dating would get easier as long as you keep on progressing up in your career and take good care of yourself physically and have a good sense of style. You can always aim down as a guy and date/marry a women in her late teens or early 20s. You don’t really age out of the pool like women do for guys younger than them
Dating in college was easy but not dating seriously. Idk I didn't have experience with seriously relationships, only casual, so I never took things very seriously and it wasn't easy to make that transition when you're clueless on how things should go lol
The issue isn’t your age but leading with the fact that you’re looking for something serious. Serious relationships build naturally from serious connections. Look for dates with good chemistry and compatibility, and the relationship will follow; don’t try to force the other way around
It varies depending on the person but late 20’s is a completely normal age to want to settle down
You might need to look for a partner that's older than you. You will probably find what you are looking for if you go for a 35+ year old partner.
Over 25, the mom and dad mindset makes you compatible. The age difference makes it hot.
I’d say you’re prime dating age. I’m 32M and i typically date 27-29F
Men mature more slowly than women. All the women I know who found their significant other and have a good, solid relationship/marriage got married in their mid-to-late 20s. Some men mature at that younger age, too. Don't settle.
Keep your profile showing that you're only looking for something serious. It'll weed out the boys from the men. In my experience, the boys that are still immature but will grow into decent men will be willing to go for something more serious if you're a good match.
If you're not the waiting til marriage type, still make the guy and yourself wait a bit, at least a few dates. That will also weed out the boys from the men, and the boys with potential from the boys who will stay boys.
D1 that's where you and I differ if I met a guy and he had messed around a lot in the past and disrespected his body and disrespected women's bodies but did a ton of soul searching and found his faith and realized the cruelty and error of his former behavior and felt genuine remorse and decided to dedicate himself to his Faith and change, then I would give him a chance.
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Late 20s is honestly a good age for women. Allows you enough time to enjoy marriage before pressure of biological clocks starts setting in
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I’m 28 M and think this is too young lol - enjoy life man! Stop worrying about having to find the one to settle down. If you rush it and force it you’ll be divorced anyways by the time you’re 40.
Take your time. Date. Treat the women well. Have fun. In no time, you’ll see women wanting to settle down with you. Don’t come off to strong; get them hooked with who you are first, not the idea of settling down with a stranger.
I’ve taken this relax approach so many times and after ~3-6 months my gfs would start wanting to talk about forming a family, marriage etc
Taking a relaxed approach is really the key here.
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Also in NYC. I do think there are men and women who want to start settling down. You won't find them in the highly ambitious fields though unless maybe you date for a few years. But also don't settle down with just anyone.
Most of my colleagues (late 20s/early 30s) are settled down now. It's also good to want to have children younger than 35 (even as a guy) because you need a lot of energy to raise kids. Also who wants an old dad?
And male sperm quality deteriorates after 40 higher risk of Autism, ADHD, Bipolar, Schizophrenia, etc.
Really can depend a lot on your geographical area
I could see the southern states - being under 26
The Midwest late twenties
New York and LA - 35 haha 🤷♀️
I also think religion plays a big role people that are deep into their Christian catholic etc religion will marry under 30.
You can try the dating app the league but my advice - go to meetups and activities you enjoy and if you hit it off with someone ask her on a date. Go out into the wild :) and ask a chick out.
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It’s not getting any easier, but you simply choose to yourself more
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The problem is, guys in their 20s are basically still children.
No it doesn't get easier
It's getting worse, women want the best ( young, tall, athletic.....), in your early 20s you have more chances.
I’m a woman in my thirties (I look young and I’m very very pretty and fit) my ideal type is a prepared man in his late 20s early 30s who wants to settle down. Keep looking 😊 we are out here waiting for the right one.