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When is the good time to tell the company that I am 3 months pregnant. My date of joining is 18th of July. I understand by law I need to finish 80days with the company before I avail maternity benefits which I can easily do in next 3 months.
I want to understand if women who go on maternity leave during probation are treated differently or if there will be discrimination once I let them know about my situation. Wipro Accenture Allstate Quantiphi analytics pvt ltd.
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Yes but tbh it was related to how shitty our work computers are lol
I feel that lol
I have cried more in the past six months since starting this job then I have in the previous six years. And I work in a really collegial office. Just having trouble with the stress and constant feelings of inadequacy.
Everyone feels inadequate when they first start. As others have said, that will pass.
Yes but not in the office
Yes, as a paralegal. Told eff this profession, pivoted to tech and never looked back. Not that I’d succeed in law school anyways.
Long road. Used the money I saved from big law to go to a coding boot camp, then worked an an infra engineer, sales engineer then PM.
Yes and yes
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Every single person I know men and women who is close enough with me to tell me so has cried at and about this job. Sometimes the reason is just that you’ve slept 10 hours total over the week and lack of sleep makes you worse at managing emotions.
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Asking this without judgment: if you have cried on (or about) the job multiple times, isn’t it a clear indication that it’s not the right job for you and that it’s probably time to leave?
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I think it depends on what your threshold for tears is. Some people cry more easily than others. I know people who cry over very little things and it’s not a big deal—wipe away the tears and carry on. Others don’t cry for anything, so if they are crying on the job, it’s a sign that something is seriously wrong.
Real men don’t cry…we BAWLLL 😭 but on a serious note, no real tears but definitely a handful of cynical laughter (think Joker). If needed, cry away fellas, it’s cathartic.
Yes so many times. Actually helps a lot to just shut the door and get a good cry out. I hope whatever is causing you to feel this way gets better, but you should definitely not bottle up tears in the meantime.
Cry yo. At least for the chemical reaction in your brain.
I’m a woman in BL and sooooo amazed at these responses!!!
Most men here have either not cried or cried and then immediately quit. I can’t even count the number of times I cry, and I know my female colleagues get overwhelmed and cry pretty regularly too. So it’s amazing to see the difference here.
i’ve never cried at work. Have I sat in my car and screamed until I felt better, sure, but usually after i’d lost an election or gotten a crappy result from the Board. Not usually because of firm or work frustrations.
A good scream does wonders.
I am a labor lawyer, so the national labor relations board and elections for representation.
The sunglasses hide it or I use the flashy thing that make them forget.
“Men in BL” is Men in Black, right?
I was on a call with a very stressed out male junior associate, who sounded like he was fighting back sobs….. Offered to take some of his work off the plate if he is overwhelmed or redistribute some of his work to other juniors but his response was “I don’t want them to steal my work”. Felt so terrible about how toxic BL can be…..
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Yeah. My boss (male in his fifties) started sobbing uncontrollably when we lost a big client. It caught me so off guard. I think my only crying experiences professionally has been with men crying.
Holy hell this is terrifying
Yep
If I ever watch a movie that hits too hard in the office
I think the only time I’ve cried at work is when I watched a video of soldiers coming home from deployment and surprising their kids. Does that count? Gets me every time.
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I cry at everything, but these videos absolutely slay me. They’re even more gut wrenching in person.
Came close once.
Nah
No, it’s not serious. If I ever did, I would know that meant it was time to leave.
Once several months in as a first year. Work just seemed never ending. Held it together at the office and cried intensely the minute I got home.