My eight months old son (still breast feeding) is having a terrible night sleep schedule. He wakes up every two hours and my wife and I are exhausted from this. We have tried sleep training. No luck!

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Cry it out was the only thing that worked for us after reading all the books and even hiring a sleep consultant. My wife had the same anxieties so we bought an Owlet (monitors heart rate and O2) for piece of mind that he was ok. Sizing up on diapers at night also seems to help. We also bought a 1” memory foam topper for the crib, which probably goes against all SIDS prevention advice but it seemed to have an impact on my son’s sleep quality.

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He could be waking up because he is hungry - perhaps supplement with formula or regular milk as last meal of the day?

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You have to let them cry it out. Also do not rock to sleep. Place the child in the crib after reading a book or some normal ritual and let them put themselves to sleep.

It's tough hearing your child cry, but they wake up in the morning like nothing happened and will stop crying within a week.

Took my wife a while to get comfortable with the crying. If they cry longer than 20 minutes and you want to give them the pacifier and lay them back down you can. But levee right away and show them to self soothe.

My son Wales up occasionally now especially with holiday travel, we just give him the pacifier and lay him back down. If he gets up screaming we let him cry it out.

But trust me when I say in the morning they are perfectly fine. Separate rooms is a must.

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Did this just start up again recently? Could be sleep regression

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Again. As most others in this thread area saying. Lay the child down. Close the door. See him or her in the morning. Try it one night. They will act perfectly normal in the morning. Although at night it seems they will not get a drop of sleep.

What you're teaching them by going on there after a few minutes is "I need to cry longer". Time to rip the bandaid off.

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Wow. You are doing it wrong. 8 months!! All our kids were trained by 4 months. You just need discipline and to realize it is good for your kids to learn how to sleep. All are in grade school now and are great sleepers. Don’t feel like you are doing them a service by letting them wake up at night. Now eating. Only 2 of them are good eaters :) any tips on that?

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I hear you. 7 mo wakes up every night. He’s gotten to the point where he’ll sleep for about 8 hours then wake up. We usually just bring him in our room at that point.

All 4 of our kids starting sleeping through the night once they started solid foods. What we also did was add rice to their last bottle before bed (the Gerber single grain). This helps keep them feeling a little more full as far as hunger goes.

Switching to the overnight style diapers helps as well. They don't feel as wet to the child and can hold more throughout the night.

Do you do cluster feeding? That was key for us. May want to consider supplementing with bottle (pumped or formula) if needed to cluster feed and accurately gauge consumption. If mom is against bottles then it’s just something you have to respect and power through. Good luck!

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