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Hi Fishes,
Need your suggestions in negotiating.
Experience: 6+ years
Skillset: Power platform and power apps
Current ctc: 16 lpa
Offer in hand: 25 lpa (Capgemini)
I am asking for 27 lpa to EY GDS but HR says max they can offer for 6 years is 21 lpa.
Wanted to understand whats the offer standards in EY GDS.
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If your partner was abusive in any way, this would be a clear-cut “get out of there,” but this really does sound like a one-off from what you’ve posted. Was there anything particularly egregious about the blowup (which was obviously wrong, but it does happen, especially with work and kid stress)? If not, I’d be inclined to try to work through it. He screwed up and needs to own it, but I’d be encouraged by the fact that he’s agreed to individual counseling. It sounds like you’re in a rough patch that he wants to work through, which is a great sign. Only you can know for sure if you want to push past it; from the outside and having gone through a divorce with two young kids, I’d probably at least try it though.
Ah okay, that adds a lot of context and complicates things a bit. I can’t blame you for being tired of it all at this point. It’s really frustrating seeing someone you love continue to make the same mistakes, doubly so when those mistakes cause you emotional pain and threaten to undo all the progress you’ve worked so hard for. Him saying you’re “making” him go to therapy makes me think he doesn’t realize how close you are to your breaking point - if he did, I’d assume he’d want to go and do everything possible to salvage the marriage. I know ultimatums are terrible for relationships; I think this might be an instance where one is justified though. “Commit to therapy and eliminating this behavior or I’m filing for a divorce.” Maybe spelling it out in black and white (if you haven’t already) will make him finally realize that he needs to change or this relationship is over, assuming of course that you’d want to stay in it if he’s able to get his emotions under control.
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I've been pushing counseling (we are in couples therapy but he needs individual). He finally agreed to go back to individuals therapy but I have little hope. I'm mentally exhausted. We have 2 small kids and otherwise, most things in the marriage are great. How do I determine if working through this is worth it, and what the line is between working through and struggle love?
I just want to say that I am so sorry you are going through this OP. I have been in a similar situaton and it is really really hard Thankfully we didn't have kids so I can't even imagine if there had been other lives involved. I am praying that everything works out for yu.