My job have a severe negative impact on my mental health, primarily from issues with my (female) manager. Anyways, I was planning to put my notice in last week. Then my MIL got sick and passed away and I've been out on bereavement all week. My plan is to put the notice in Monday when I return.... however (continued in comments)

like
Posting as :
works at
You are currently posting as works at

Please consider short term disability leave, to begin as soon as possible. Your primary care provider can sign any paperwork and you only need to tell your employer it’s for a “medical condition.”

This type is situation is what short term disability leave is for. I hope you feel better soon.

like

I'm so sorry you're going through this.

I agree. Take it one day at a time. When I feel overwhelmed, I try to break the day into tasks/hrs. So I'll work for a 2 hr block or until something is done and book a 30min break on my calendar to step away, get coffee, go for a walk etc. And so literally just try to survive 2hrs, 4hrs, etc at a time if a day even feels too long.

Also prioritize. Not everything needs to be done. Focus on the most important things and if you only do 1 or 2 of those things in a day, that might be enough.

like

coffee no, as it makes anxiety worse
sugar and coffee should be stopped in that situation

i would do a blood test for vit D, thyroid, iron, ferritin, magnesium,cortisol, B12, and sex hormones as well

sex hormones should be taken on 3-5th day of a cycle

Once you put in your two weeks, you can/should focus your efforts on transitioning work. I find that my last two weeks are always way more chill because I’m doing a lot of housekeeping, not taking on new projects, and there is a light at the end of the tunnel. So- rather than quit in the spot, give notice and then get a few weeks pay while you wind down.

They could always tell you they don’t need two weeks and that today is your last day (so be prepared for that), but it doesn’t sound like that would crush you.

like

However, I logged in today to get a sense of what I'm coming back to Monday and felt immediately overwhelmed, anxiety and panic. Idk how I'm gonna stay another 2 weeks and make it out alive. Anyone ever just quit on the spot? I have no plans of ever going back to this company and I don't wanna burn bridges. I just dk if I can make it. I'm sure they're pissed as it's quarter end/10- Q season, and I'm in a reporting role.

There is so much peace whenever I'm not working this job. I've never felt like this before about a job but I went through depression last year, lost my mom less than a year ago, then hubby's grandfather in Feb, now his mom this week. I'm on the verge of a mental breakdown and this job is just one stressor that I don't need. Things are pretty bad between my manager and I don't think the internal role I wanted to transfer to is going to help. I think I need to 100% cut ties. Also I feel like this relationship and impact on my performance (which has slacked) will haunt me at this company regardless of what role I'm in.

Any advice or words of encouragement?

like

I done resigned yall lol. Last day this week

like

Absolutely, take it one step it a time, prioritize what needs to be focused on, find your coping skills and lean on your support system! Remember tough times don’t last tough people do! You got this ! Maybe put in your two weeks notice to give yourself time to find something else and to leave the right way. You can last for 2 more weeks! If you are interested in another option dm me I may be able to help you fire your boss!

like

I have been there. Close to not being able to function based on an emotionally abusive boss.

I took STD (leave). She ended up getting fired before I went back so it was ik.

Bottom line, Your health and well being comes first!! If you feel you can't do it/it's a risk to your mental health, than leave.

I would go to HR and provide them with the resignation immediately, sharing that you would prefer to give two weeks, but the environment has become too toxic.

Take care of yourself!

like

Related Posts

Hi all! I had my first ultrasound yesterday morning (~36 hours), and now I am having steady dark pink spotting with dark mucus. Has anyone experienced the same or similar? The ultrasound went well, but with this new spotting I’m getting worried. Too late to call now, so looking for similar experiences.

Covid-19 coverage: what are you seeing? Where are we headed?

like

Bump is now getting bigger at 16 weeks and planning on adding a moisturizer for belly. Any recommendation?Just saw an ad for Frieda mom’s pregnancy moisturizer. Anyone tried it and is it pregnancy safe?

like

My manager feeds me 100 chole bhature & then my tummy hurts so I ask her to give me a leave but then she declines my request and feeds me 1 more plate of chole bhature then I die because of excess gas formation inside my stomach, then I poop & become alive once again then my boss notices that im alive again and feeds me 109 plates of kadi chawal and this goes on and on and on and on

like
likeupliftinghelpful

What are the best agencies ( travel) for RN with one year of CVICU experience? Thank you

like

Vent post: Have a mentally ill family member who is not committed to getting the help they need (e.g., through therapy or medication). Been this way for years with no change or end in sight. Has anyone experienced something similar? Were you able to encourage that person to seek professional help? Frustrating situation and can’t figure out how to make it better.

upliftinghelpful

And so it begins….

👎👎 to all anti vaxxers and anti maskers.

Post Photo
likefunny

Today was a rough workout. Pretty bummed - hoping tomorrow goes better.

like

Ok keto crew. Keto is all well and good in the week & can make it fit my life well, but I struggle so bad at the weekends going out. Do you all really not drink? If you do, what do you have?

Any nyc therapist recs? Someone GOOD, open to any price range

like

My boss started harassing me because he found out I am vaccinated against covid. What does a vaccine have anything to do with marketing?

like

When did you decide to get medicated? I have what I’d call “high functioning” depression and anxiety. See a therapist and all, but still deal with lows that seem hard to overcome for weeks on end - losing interest, hard to focus on work, sleeping difficulties, etc. Hard to tell when to make that decision!

like

So who else here is experiencing plummeting billable hours and exponential weight gain since this whole WFH thing started? Bought snacks for 30 days, finished in 48 hours.

likefunnysmart

Maybe I just don’t pay attention to labels enough, but this is the first time really noticing this. It weirded me out thinking of food I’m putting in my body being “genetically engineered”

Post Photo
like

I’ve known this for about a month now, but I think my project is affecting my health in an extremely negative way. Woke up last night and puked even though I wasn’t actively worrying/thinking (contd)

like

Y’all I just need to vent real quick as my husband is gone for the week several time zones away and I’m alone. This late second trimester heartburn is unreal! I’ve never really had heartburn before but holy shit! I find myself pacing and feeling sick to my stomach because of it, unable to focus on anything else, and then I’m drained because all my energy is spent focusing on just this pain. Hoooo 😵 10/10 do not recommend

like

Do you share your struggles of depression and/or anxiety with your parents/family? Especially when not living with them.
Should I be? It's a lot of effort to sound ... happy or normal on the phone. But don't want to make them worry either.

like

Husband and I have been TTC for almost a year. His semen analysis came back all normal with the exception of morphology at 1% (Kruger Strict criteria). Anyone have insights into morphology and it’s impacts on fertility? From what I’ve read and after talking to our fertility specialist morphology seems subjective.

like

More Posts

I am to interview with CTS for Product owner/ manager. Any specific things I should watch out for? Interviewing for Duckcreek. What’s the salary range I can expect?

like

I’ve built a reputation I’m proud of @ my company. I’m underpaid for what I do (started as an intern) & recently asked for a market adjustment. Management acknowledged that I’m undervalued & plans to set me up for a promotion. It’d come with more responsibility, which doesn’t align with my goals.

Is it wise for me to remain open to a promotion just for increased pay? Or should I be transparent with management about my goals (& possibly not get the pay I’m asking for)? Or any other tips?

like

Hi
I am working in a automobile sector in supply chain management
YOE 8 years
I wish to move to E commerce supply chain
Suggestions needed

🐟 - I rolled over $100K from old employer 401K to Fidelity Rollover IRA. What implications does it have on my ability to do backdoor IRA? We do not qualify for Roth due to income limits. TIA.

like

Hello guys, Looking for a job in finance domain ( accounting, liquidity reporting) in Ireland. Any referrals please connect.

like

What is the best way to get SHRM certified. I have my associates in business administration.

like

Hi everyone,
Does the gap of one month will affect job opportunities or interview calls for IT jobs especially in current market scene?

Can get advice on TC?
Let’s say your original TC in your current is 300k, but because of stock appreciation, your actual TC now is 500k (same base, same bonus, but stock appreciated). When negotiating with new company, will the new company consider your TC as 500k, or 300k? Thanks

like

What is the potential contract rate or full time salary for a python full stack developer in Toronto ?

like

Working in IT now for the past 10 years as an office systems Admin on €42k. Is this the going rate for IT Systems Admin, essentially all IT functions.

like

Biggest cons of vending machines?

like
like

I need help with my interviewing skills

like

What would be a good comp range for a Manager - Mangement Consulting in Toronto/GTA?

like

Hello everyone,

I am currently working with Sun Pharmaceutical Industries as Manager Global Pharmacovigilance. I am looking for a job in Consulting. Can anyone kindly refer me?

like

Hey Fishes! What level does an Accenture UK 'Graduate' start at? Also could someone give any kind of salary range? This would be a transfer from another company for 2 YOE. If I were to be placed at the 'bottom of the SFBG (Salesforce Business Group). I will soon be having a conversation over accepting the role and wondering what salary to aim for. This is UK based, Manchester. Thanks!

like

Hello All,

Would IBM software labs provide 15 lpa (fixed) after negotiation for 2.8 years experience. (current offer: 12.5 out of which 10 fixed)
I am immediate joiner into frontend React.

Any Insights would be helpful.
Thanks

like

Salary for a programmatic associate director in NYC?

like

Is E3 band good for someone having 11 years of experience??
Annual salary offered 31lakhs?

like

Any of Dfw female fishes interested in spending time over drinks/ dinner chat abot life, fun friendly conversation, may we watch a movie together. ? Brown Male 36 .

like

New to Fishbowl?

Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
That was just a preview…
Sign Up to see all discussions
  • Discover what it’s like to work at companies from real professionals
  • Get candid advice from people in your field in a safe space
  • Chat and network with other professionals in your field
Sign up in seconds to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.

Already a user?
Login here

Share

Embed this post

Copy and paste embed code on your site

Preview

Download the
Fishbowl app

See what’s happening in your industry
from the palm of your hand.

A phone with Fishbowl app

Scan your QR code to download
Fishbowl app on your mobile

Download app

Sign up for free to view this conversation on Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy

Already have an account? Log in

Sign up for free to continue using Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use(New) and Privacy Policy(New)
Messaging rates may apply

Already have an account? Log in

For account settings, visit Fishbowl on Desktop Browser or

General

Legal