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Hey you sound like me! I’m about to take a few months off for the first time in my life. I’m a contractor so it’s a little easier, because once my contract ended I am electing to not reach out for any work until November. I think that’s producers we are so much “yes wo/men“ and we are such anxious people, heck I’d argue that we’re good at our jobs because of it, but I feel like capitalism takes advantage of our anxiety because we are such task doers. You have to figure out a way to own what is yours. What if you had kids? Or what if you had to go to physical therapy every day? Or what if you had a sick parent? You would have to not work for a couple hours a day. What is the culture like at your office? Do you feel like you have freedom to take time off if needed, or at least step away after 6 PM.
For me I came to prioritize myself when I realized fuck it, as long as I have a little bit of money saved in the bank, what’s the worst that could happen, I get fired? Well if I get fired for doing my absolute 100% best, fuck them. They can live without me happily. I think you got to embrace a “fuck it“ attitude while still maintaining a positive professional one as well.
And hey, I’ve never been fired, not even close. I keep getting asked back again and again because I try so hard. And I’m good at what I do. You have to gain some confidence there.
Awesome advise!
I realize this isn’t necessarily helpful but I just wanted to let you know that I understand and am in the very same boat. I’ve been trying mediation as often as possible as well as therapy but I still feel like the days just swallow me up. Back to back meetings all damn day and then I do actual work from about 8:00-midnight after my kid goes to bed bc it’s the only time I have to get it done where people aren’t all over me. I’m sorry you’re experiencing this cycle, it’s a beast. I feel for you.
I’m sorry you’re going through this too. It’s definitely a bad cycle for everyone. And I’ve decided not to have kids, mostly because I just don’t want them, but my poor mental health is definitely a factor.
Lots of great advice here! Here’s dumb advice that helps me:
Sometimes I just “1 2 3 GO” and shut my laptop, walk away, leaving my phone behind, and take a snack lap around the office.
Once I physically tear myself away, it’s easier to extend the break to a real one.
If Steve-O can jump off cliffs from a “1 2 3 GO” I can take a work break, damnit!
haha awesome- report back if you try it!
Therapy.
Book 15-20 minute breaks on your calendar to take a walk and breathe.
Ask for help at work even if you need help delegating.
Plan vacations and things to do so you have to walk away and/or look forward to something.
Im in this same issue and I often curl in a ball on my floor at home from the stress. having a therapist tell me what I needed to do helped me see it and do it. Im on week 2 and nowhere near “cured” but I’m doing my best. Know it won’t be perfect, but you must try too. It’s your life and you deserve to live and enjoy it - just keep repeating it and keep trying to do the little things!
In therapy, not sure if it’s helping. Mostly because I don’t do the things my therapist recommends consistently. Journaling, exercise… I won’t prioritize it because I haven’t gotten any kind of positive feeling of progress from the few times I’ve tried them. I am trying to get someone I trust hired to help me, my last assistant was a psychopath legitimately, he’s getting sued right now for defamation among other things for his behavior toward me and others after his exit. I might plan something but I’ll cancel later because I don’t feel like doing it and won’t get excited about it. It all feels like a huge burden and too much work for little reward because the mountain of work I come back to after PTO is even more overwhelming. Appreciate your insights here, thank you.
Divide up your tasks into an urgent, important, non urgent, non important matrix. Focus on the ones that are urgent and important first. Know that it’s ok to say no and advocate for yourself to take longer to do certain things. Block your time and focus on one thing at a time vs jumping task to task. Decline any meetings that can run without you. Take your lunch and stop working at a set time.
Often times we get ourselves into a mode where we just keep doing more and more. It’s ok to do less.
I’m trying to get them to hire someone to help me. Can’t really leave. I’m in a small market at a top agency and even if there were better options in town I’m not convinced it would be any better anywhere else regardless.