Need help deciphering this because my hormones may be getting the best of me. I will have 2 under 2 and am currently pregnant. Communicated to team and planning transition and coverage now. A few colleagues have made the comment “it was just like yesterday when you went on your first leave!” Or something similar. Like they need to cover for me again but I covered for another colleague’s maternity leave before. It’s just what we do imo. Is this passive aggressive or harmless?

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As a fellow mom who recently had 2 under 2, it could be both, but it’s not untrue either. It’s a fast time to have a second baby and take leave but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do either of those things. You do you boo.

I’ll say, it is hard to see the colleagues I transitioned work to now be awarded for their contributions but I have 2 amazing kids and that’s more important to me. There will be many more comments ahead of “wow so fast!” Or “weren’t you just on leave?” Or similar. You will not have time nor energy to care, so don’t waste the brainwaves now.

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It’s passive aggressive but screw them, do you. You’re not doing anything wrong and it’s unfortunate that more people/companies aren’t more supportive of moms.

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I think it depends on your coworkers. You probably know if they are the type to be passive aggressive or the type that are generally harmless. I wouldn't assume passive aggressive because time does fly, but could be.

I'm about to have 2 under 3, it just is what it is in terms of leave. It's a benefit of your job, utilize it

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