Related Posts
More Posts
Additional Posts in Consulting
Which consulting firm has the best 401k match?
New to Fishbowl?
Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
That was just a preview…
Sign Up to see all discussions
Sign Up to see all discussions
- Discover what it’s like to work at companies from real professionals
- Get candid advice from people in your field in a safe space
- Chat and network with other professionals in your field
Sign up in seconds to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
"" is an unusual email domain. If correct, please proceed to the next step
Messaging rates may apply
This site is protected by reCAPTCHA and the Google Privacy Policy and Terms of Service apply.
New to Fishbowl?
Download the Fishbowl app to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
Share
Embed this post
Copy and paste embed code on your site
Preview
Download the
Fishbowl app
Scan your QR code to download
Fishbowl app on your mobile
Sign up for free to view this conversation on Fishbowl
Sign up for free to continue using Fishbowl
Messaging rates may apply
You're addicted. You've also been exposed to how your priorities are imbalanced at the moment and need some correcting. Overall you're in a good situation because you like what you do still but now you need to add some boundaries around work and commitment to your partner. If you aren't ready for that, that's ok, but your partner is looking for that (and deserves it). Might be a tough conversation ahead.
For what it's worth, many of us are experiencing a similar wake up call with wfh. We're learning that we forgot about other parts of our life. Some of us miss it. Some are even more miserable and want to return to the before times. It's pretty normal to be having these thoughts. For some there will he significant changes and for others no big deal. If you aren't sure, start small. When I met my wife we just committed to dinner at the same time, at least when home. And if not home, check in at the same time. Small steps can go far. Think about different touch points throughout the day and overlapping activities to do jointly. Even watching a twenty minute show together nightly can go a long way to saying you matter to another person.
^ Sounds like sarcasm but I think it’s solid advice.
Seems your life’s validation comes from your work and deliverables (not saying good or bad, just saying - you decide). You sig other’s life validation perhaps comes from being with you (again, not saying good or bad, just saying).
Personally, if I were you, I’d prioritize sig other over work despite work accomplishments being so fulfilling. Why? Because work helps me get acceptance without asking for it, while investing in my relationship will give me belonging when I need it the most.
Chief
Did you type that out on your phone or is there a dictation function here I don’t have?
Placing a lot of value in something that you really can't control how it makes you feel at any given point in time can be a dangerous proposition. Work may not always be there for you, at least the work you enjoy.
Your friends and family will.
I had a huge reckoning with WLB once I started dating an SO that I actually loved spending time with. Make sure you are not substituting validation from work for meaningful relationships.