Newly separated from the Army and having a hard time adjusting back into civilian life. Everyone says it just takes time but I feel really lost. Thinking about finding a new hobby or activity outside of work, any suggestions?

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You might consider a therapist. I had a really difficult time when I got out. Purpose and all that. A lot of people go through it. I’m in a few local jeep clubs that get together, but it’s nice to word vomit on someone that isn’t going to judge you and might give you workable angles and hobbies.

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I’m having the same difficulties. I thought I did a good job separating the Army from “me” while I was still in, but the transition has caught me feeling more lost than I anticipated.

Similar to you, I decided to tackle the issue by taking up surfing, yoga, skiing, hiking, and other active hobbies. That said, I feel like what helps the most is talking to other friends who are veterans. It’s a process- you’re not alone.

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What helped me is to think of the process like a campaign. You’ll win some days and you’ll lose others. Just keep moving forward. Try a bunch of things. Get involved in orgs you care about and see what connects with you.

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Something to think about is getting involved in veteran organizations. Whether that is something at your company, your industry, or in your area. When I first got out my fellow veterans were always my best resource for assistance and perspective. I remember one specific time I was at event and a fellow veteran and I sat overlooking the Statue of Liberty reflecting where both of us had been the year prior (Iraq/Afghanistan). No one will understand that but another veteran.

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What's your MOS?

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It does take time so don’t be too hard on yourself. The army is an all encompassing lifestyle and you don’t just flip a switch and become a different person overnight. I got off active duty 1.5 years ago and I’m still adjusting. The guard/reserve can be a good option if you want to keep one foot in the army. You can also do hobbies that might make you feel connected to the military such as: weight lifting, running, ski diving, scuba, shooting, etc. you can also try and go in a different direction with something like golf, tennis, painting, or learning to play an instrument. Really just depends on your personality and what you enjoy.

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Where are you calling home now? Chances are, there tons to do in your backyard.

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Why don't you try to consider taking up a new interest or extracurricular activity, such as volunteering, joining a sports team, or engaging in artistic endeavors, to help you transition from the Army to civilian life after service. Whenever necessary, get expert assistance.

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Join some type of group activity of people with similar personalities. Martial arts, crossfit, church, etc. There are probably other good groups that are intentional about creating communities too.

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OP, it takes time to adjust. To meet some like minded people, perhaps look into the local VFW or American Legion? Have some like-minded people to occasionally talk to helps. Good luck!

What do you find hard about adjusting? What are you doing post-mil?

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