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8yrs in Oil & Gas (engr coordinator, qty surveying and proj ctrl)
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I'm looking for a role in McK serving O&G, industrial, capital projects clients. Open to generalist roles as well. Can review for vetting.
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You might consider a therapist. I had a really difficult time when I got out. Purpose and all that. A lot of people go through it. I’m in a few local jeep clubs that get together, but it’s nice to word vomit on someone that isn’t going to judge you and might give you workable angles and hobbies.
I’m having the same difficulties. I thought I did a good job separating the Army from “me” while I was still in, but the transition has caught me feeling more lost than I anticipated.
Similar to you, I decided to tackle the issue by taking up surfing, yoga, skiing, hiking, and other active hobbies. That said, I feel like what helps the most is talking to other friends who are veterans. It’s a process- you’re not alone.
What helped me is to think of the process like a campaign. You’ll win some days and you’ll lose others. Just keep moving forward. Try a bunch of things. Get involved in orgs you care about and see what connects with you.
Something to think about is getting involved in veteran organizations. Whether that is something at your company, your industry, or in your area. When I first got out my fellow veterans were always my best resource for assistance and perspective. I remember one specific time I was at event and a fellow veteran and I sat overlooking the Statue of Liberty reflecting where both of us had been the year prior (Iraq/Afghanistan). No one will understand that but another veteran.
What's your MOS?
It does take time so don’t be too hard on yourself. The army is an all encompassing lifestyle and you don’t just flip a switch and become a different person overnight. I got off active duty 1.5 years ago and I’m still adjusting. The guard/reserve can be a good option if you want to keep one foot in the army. You can also do hobbies that might make you feel connected to the military such as: weight lifting, running, ski diving, scuba, shooting, etc. you can also try and go in a different direction with something like golf, tennis, painting, or learning to play an instrument. Really just depends on your personality and what you enjoy.
Where are you calling home now? Chances are, there tons to do in your backyard.
Why don't you try to consider taking up a new interest or extracurricular activity, such as volunteering, joining a sports team, or engaging in artistic endeavors, to help you transition from the Army to civilian life after service. Whenever necessary, get expert assistance.
Join some type of group activity of people with similar personalities. Martial arts, crossfit, church, etc. There are probably other good groups that are intentional about creating communities too.
OP, it takes time to adjust. To meet some like minded people, perhaps look into the local VFW or American Legion? Have some like-minded people to occasionally talk to helps. Good luck!
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What do you find hard about adjusting? What are you doing post-mil?