Program Manager asked me to take a 1hr later flight on Thursdays. The1 hr would make me miss seeing my kids before bed. I like coming home and putting them to bed. How do I address?

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I would suggest talking to them. “This is really important to me and my family. What else can I do during the week to make it possible for me to leave on the earlier flight?"

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Good luck. You can’t take money to your grave. Family is the most important thing

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Be transparent and honest about your family commitment. If he does not understand he’s a jerk. Then you escalate to your counselor

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Managers and clients that demand this kind of thing are not worth their name. This is the problem with a lot of consulting and when I was on the receiving end of consultants wondered what kind of people they were. If you can’t get managers to work with you and clients the same, it’s time to look elsewhere. Work, managers or clients are not worth what we build with family. Ever

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Definitely speak up. Does your manager know when your kids’ bedtime is? Maybe he doesn’t know or just hasn’t made the connection. Also, if he’s going to make you do it, he should at least know what he’s really making you give up, and during your exit interview you can say so and maybe help the people coming in after you. Change won’t happen if people don’t push. For the record, I’m a manager and have a kid. I’d support you.

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You need to discuss with your program manager and team leader. Family first.

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Consider firms that offer work life balance or local models. Ie slalom

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SM rolled off. Have a new SM with kids who knows what’s important

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Thanks for all the feedback. There are no client demands and only for optics. The 1st SM has micro managing tendencies and worth mentioning has no children

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Thank you everyone. Taking home my earlier flight

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Seems fairly common in consulting. I travel Sunday - Thur. Leave house around 2 on Sunday and don’t get home until 11 pm on Thursday.

Offer to come in an hour earlier on Thursday if there is sufficient work to be done. If it's an optics thing, discuss how else you can help meet that goal while still meeting your work/life balance family commitment. An hour isn't a lot to ask to build significant goodwill for you as the employee and your family. Happy wife, happy life, right?

Really need to try and draw your own boundaries and find where and when you are willing to flex those a little bit. In this line of work, with constantly changing clients, projects and teams, very few people will do that for you. Haven't quite figured it out myself to be honest.

What's the PM hoping you can accomplish flying an hour later? Is there a specific weekly meeting the PM wants you to attend?

Thank you all. I appreciate the feedback and support. I’m a Manager with three kids and a very supportive wife. Interesting to mention the SM is a she with no kids.

Yah, an hour onsite is not worth missing an evening (even if only half an hour before bed) with kids. It’s unreasonable. So for one hour of client face-time you have to see your kids 10 hours later. I don’t think so.

If it were special circumstances (client temporarily pissed and you have to stay 4 extra hours) it might be reasonable. But this is not.

How’d it go down OP?

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