Question for women in HR that work in predominantly male fields -
How do you handle being quietly disrespected? The high level staff Director and I have to work together on everything. Any calendar invite is declined. Any opinion on a situation is a disagreement. If I say the sky is blue, he says it's not. We could share the same opinion and he'll go out of his way to mansplain to me or nitpick an unrelated detail. The mental burnout is getting to me. Any advice is much appreciated.

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Ask him to explain his disagreement with you in public to see what he says. Interrupt him and tell him he doesn’t need to explain what you already know. Or say his explanation was not helpful. Practice saying it so you are ready!!!
Ask him in a meeting in front of others to suggest a 1:1 calendar invite since he hasn’t accepted your requests. Basically fight back and stand up for yourself!!!!!

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The advice isn't dependent on a male or female disrespecting you.
You have a conversation. Call out what you're seeing and ask why.
If it doesn't change you ask yourself if that's a space you want to remain in.

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I agree. Definitely call it out face-to-face in a non-threatening, curious way. "Hi, Chad. I noticed you have declined my meeting requests ## of times. I can provide a brief explanation of the goal/reasoning for the meeting if it is confusing to you. Will you meet with me so we can accomplish X/Y/Z?"
Actually saying, "if it is confusing to you" may sound passive-aggressive, so maybe throw that into ChatGPT. But definitely ask him to explain why he is doing that, and the why behind your meeting request.

I work in the front office for a professional sports team. Talk about mal dominated!!!! I played sports growing up, but not the sport I work in, and I get reminded of that all the time. I remind the male leaders why I am there, why my role exists and why they get to make decisions around the sport and athletes, leave the compliance and HR related issues up to the HR team. Some times I sit quietly and look at them while my words can resonate, not intimidating but waiting for an acknowledgment. It’s not always easy, I remain patient and consistent. It helps! Good luck to you!!

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Call it out. Make it clear, make him aware. If it continues to happen, there’s clearly no respect there. Then you have to decide if that’s an environment you want to continue to be in.

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