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It would be wrong to start doing dating events before telling your boyfriend that it's over. Sounds like he's not the bf you want anyway. So tell him it's over and move on.
This was all just toooo much. Way too much you clearly don’t like him, aren’t aligned, don’t see a future. So just end it. And move on.
End it cleanly and move on.
TLDR but why did you move out? That’s a sign to me the relationship is over.
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I never intended on living with him to be honest and that was meant to be a temporary thing.
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(CONTD) and he said "he doesn't know because he has to save his gas or something like that." smh. My friend said im single and my boyfriend knows Im moving on, but just hasn't addressed the situation and that his actions are not demonstrating the fact that he is in a relationship.
i called him yesterday after I got off work to ask him if he could bring my plastic container out to my car and my set of dumbbells and he said he "had a bad headache and couldn't do it." 😒
She thinks it wouldn't be wrong for me to go to this online Speed Dating event because things sound like they are over beteeen us. She said he hasn't tried to come to my new place to have dinner or spend time with me, or anything. Would it be wrong for me to attend the virtual Speed Dating event? I don't want to wait around forever for someone to show up for me and waste the rest of my 30s away.
\*\*\*UPDATE\*\*\*\*\*
I went over to my boyfriend's place today to get more of my things i was unable to get the last time (i.e, work monitor, food items in fridge, clean out older food items, etc) and I decided to ask him--"do you even like me?" and he responded and said "why not? That's a random question you asked me out of nowhere." I said "sometimes I feel like you don't." He replied & said "I'm sorry you feel that way." He asked me if I missed him & I didn't respond.
Then, when I asked him if he could help me take a few items to my car and he whined and said he was tired. He said "are you going to be able to take all of those bags out in one trip?" I'm not making a 2nd trip.
He even made a comment when I mentioned how there was no space for me to put any trash in the trash can--& said "its good that there isn't because you have alot of trash." smh. He just doesn't even TRY!!!
soooo frustrating...
\*\*UPDATE\*\*\*
I recently moved out of my boyfriend's apartment this past Tuesday, March 17th. He wanted me to wake up at 6am this past Saturday (because that was the ONLY TIME he said he could help me take a few things to my new apartment before his barbershop appointment that was scheduled for 2pm). He said he needed to come back home, take a nap, & wash his hair before his appointment. It was super frustrating because he didn't help me take anything else to my apartment besides THAT DAY.
I still have to pickup my Work Computer monitor that I left at his place, swiffer mop, a few other small bags of things, and some food items in the fridge & freezer at this place. Should I let him know that I plan to stop by either today or tomorrow to pickup these things and should I give him back the key he gave me?
He even asked me last week "so your commute and you being closing to your job is more important than me?" SMH
\*TL; DR\* \*Update!!
\*\*\*FINALLY got my keys to my new apartment ON MY OWN (Without my boyfriend).
Last week, he was not saying much to me for a few days & whenever I asked him what was wrong & tried to touch him, he said he was tired.
Well, I finally got him to open up to & start talking to me. He finally revealed to me what was bothering him & said "Dont tell ppl stuff and then change your mind about it. One day you say you're gonna do one thing & then the next day, you say you're going to do something else. I feel like you're trying to mess me up. Then you said " I got the apartment. Then I'm thinking I gotta figure out how im gonna get 600 dollars in 2 weeks.
I replied to him & said "I'm sorry you feel that way. Im not trying to intentionally mess you up.
I told you I would still give you money to go towards some of next month's rent. I just explained to you how I only received Half of a paycheck for my first check & would have to wait until my 2nd paycheck (when I receive a FULL PAYCHECK) to pay you."
Btw, he has not offered to help me take anything that needs to go with me to my new apartment to my car--LET ALONE help me move at all. He said "I don't really want any movers in my apartment." He also said "you don't really have alot of stuff & you don't live that far away to be making multiple trips to your apartment to drop stuff off." 😒
How would you even respond to this??? Its just frustrating. All I really need is a moving company to transport my items (clothes, food, extra bags, etc) to my new apartment using their truck or van. But they all charge for a minimum of 2 hours of labor and I was quote $340 to $414 for it--which is insane. I don't even have any furniture to move smh.
He criticized me for being quick to get the apartment because the leasing agent told me about a deal. I told him I did not qualify for the apartment that was more money because I don't make 3 times the monthly rent. He said to me "so you really think NO OTHER apartment that is as affordable as the one you got now is going to be affordable in a few months?" And I told him "no, because the rent prices tend to increase alot when the weather gets warmer."
I decided to move because I just started a new job & have an extremely stressful & hectic commute. I wanted to be as close as possible to work especially during my probationary period. I need to make a great impression and not struggle with my commute & time as much as possible. I expressed this to my boyfriend & told him i was trying to find an affordable apartment as soon as possible so that I would have an easier commute--especially since I have to be at work at 8am.
He knew about how I was looking for an affordable place to live for several months. So I don't know why he's acting so bothered and surprised now. He has not expressed or discussed any plans of wanting to get married to me in the future at all--so does he think im just going to wait around for him Forever?!
I told him the Leasing Consultant at the leasing office of the apartment told me to apply for the apartment ASAP because the units go fast & the prices fluctuate. I did exactly this because I also noticed that then rent was going to be over $1600 if I tried to move around March or April. I don't make enough money to afford an apartment that is more than $1480.
I told him I would give him $250 or so for utilities since I would not be able to give him the normal $680-$860 i normally give him-ESPECIALLY since I am no long getting unemployment.
I was recently unemployed from September 2025 to Earlier this month & was STILL paying him money for my portion of the rent.
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Much going on here. 1) Not sure your ages but it does sound like both of you have some growth to do. Moving to a closer place of your job shouldn’t be the reason to end a healthy relationship. 2) not sure if decided this on your own and just told him but communication between you both seems to not be something really strong either. 3) as it was said, if you’re still “in the relationship” it makes no sense to attempt to date someone else. That thought alone shows how very little you value the relationship on itself.
I know you didn’t ask but if I were you, I’d take some time alone and work on yourself. Get your own time, enjoy your space, get to know what you truly value, how do you handle conflict, differences and then you go try date someone else. The worst thing you can do is to jump from one to the other just to make the same mistakes.