So am I naive for wanting to develop friendships with my coworkers? It seems like everyone has a life outside of work and as much as we talk about being collaborative and teamwork, no one on my team actually wants to develop friendships. Is it pointless? Like I don't want to waste my time but I do think the work culture would be more enjoyable?

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I can relate but sometimes people just want to keep their work life separate from their personal life.

I assume it’s because being around coworkers outside of work reminds them of being at work and nobody wants to feel that way in your free time.

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That's exactly what I'm thinking! What do you do to build relationships? Or do you run into the same issue

Some people want to make friends, others don't. There is no general answer.

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I’ll be your friend.

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Haha, thanks, not sure if this is sarcasm to point out my nativity or genuine but I'll hope for the best :)

I don’t think it’s pointless at all to make friends at work. It’s how I’ve met some of the people closest to me now. It will just come down to whether or not they are also interested, but it’s worth putting yourself out there.

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It is sometimes easier to establish friendships with individuals on adjacent teams or create a group around a shared interest, fitness, gaming, happy hour, etc.

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Since you’ll have likely worked with people outside your team on projects there is already some connection and maybe perceived low stakes risk if you stop hanging out at a later time. There is also the option to set up “coffee calls” with others based on a topic of interest, either some technical expertise or a hobby.

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Are you a new hire?

Yes I am!

Not at all, but it certainly depends on the culture. I consider my colleagues friends at my current company, but in the past it was very cutthroat and I wanted to distance myself from colleagues as much as possible socially. It certainly is nice being able to develop friendships at work though.

I reckon it's important to make friends and build rapport in any walk of life, including work. If others don't wanna partake that's their choice. For most adults how the **** else we supposed to make strong connections?

Seriously! I don't have too many other circles outside of college friends who are hundreds of miles away and have families!

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