How do you know people like working with you? I always feel like I’m not liked

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If they invite you to outside work activities.

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^ this plus messaging you casually on Skype/teams/slack and getting excited to work with you on another project

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They fill out my performance review which literally asks them to rate whether they want me on their team again or not

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I guess I ask because I’m quite introverted and kinda socially awkward. I never feel like I fit in 100%. I get invited out and hang out with a lot of former and current colleagues outside of work. They’ll ask me my opinion on stuff and we’ll talk about our lives/dreams outside of work.

I’m just not super charming, interesting, and funny as some of my colleagues.

However, I’ve always been insecure about whether they actually like more or are just faking it. I’ve never been super popular/ a “cool kid” even in high school and I think it’s always been an insecurity for me.

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If you get invited out I think you’re fine!

If you feel that way, consider why. Are you not pulling your weight or are you a hardo manager?

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FA1 I hear you but I think personal reflection/being mindful is important for improvement/understanding. However OP added some context below that is helpful in understanding the situation.

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I agree with the above, also staff will ask you your opinion on other things that aren’t working on with you directly. If they are asking for a second opinion and that second opinion is you then yes they not only like working with you but also value you and your knowledge.

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Intuition.

For me, liking someone and liking to work with them are very different. As someone who generally likes everyone, I agree with the sentiments above, if you are being asked to outside work events etc, they like you as a person. But enjoying working with someone is entirely different, I have friends that I don’t like to work with, because we don’t mesh well as a team. But if I do like working with someone, I will try and staff my projects with them more often. Granted, since my team is small I will have to try on people I don’t like to work with regardless, so your best indicator outside of snapshots (because people can put you at level if they don’t want to be confrontational), is how many comments they give you back and how many times the work is sent back. Generally the more comments I give, and if I send it back more than once, for the same type of issue, then I’m less likely to enjoy working with you. Please note, this does not mean if you get a lot of comments because you are new that I don’t like working with you, only if I was to have to give you those same comments 2-3 times. If you correct your errors and show improvement over time I have no complaints about working with you.

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