So, one of the reasons I'm kinda frustrated at my current job is that my manager and some other members of the team have a shared background and speak the same mother tongue. I don't.
Very often during meetings, they say things in their mother tongue (expressions, word fillers). The team meetings are predominantly in English but it's hard to ignore the fillers and expressions in their language. Sometimes, they then say it in English. But I feel utterly excluded. Contd in the comments

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Ugh I am so sorry OP. I would feel the same way that you do OP. I would feel very left out and almost uncomfortable if people were saying things that I do not understand.

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Thanks a lot. It's just really uncomfortable and unsettling.

What "native language" are they speaking? Find someone who speaks the same language and ask them to teach you how to say, "Speak English please, so everyone knows whats being said." Not only will it catch them off guard, you'll probably be Kudo'd for calling them out.

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It's a middle eastern language. Pretty specific, I think a dialect even.
I wish i could do this but I'm very rightfully scared of being blacklisted.

I always feel so left out. Now I have taken to not changing my expression when they say anything in their language even if they laugh. Also, sometimes when they ask for my opinion, I'll make a remark about not understanding everything that's being said. I know I'm being passive aggressive in how I'm handling it. But I don't think full on confrontation is the wisest way to handle it, especially as it is a termed employment that needs manager's sign-off for renewal. I am definitely job hunting as I speak but I can't risk loosing this job so I'm playing it cool.
Does anyone have any advise for me? Or have you been in a similar situation and how did you handle it?

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